we've always had cats in our household. one of my two cats died 2 years ago, and i've been gently asking my mother for permission to get another cat ever since. she insists that one cat gives her enough trouble (my mum is prone to overreaction and can be very irrational at times!), despite her being able to cope fine before our other cat died. i've gone from gently asking to drunken arguments, and eventually she proclaimed that if i got another cat she would leave the family. does anyone have any advice as to how to reason successfully with her? (btw i'm 25, not a kid :-P and before you ask, i live at home still because i'm disabled.)
2007-03-27 12:52:08 · 8 answers · asked by CosmicCat 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
You might think about being a bit more reasonable. Your mother takes care of the cats and she probably does quite a bit for you. That's great, but she needs a break from the responsibility now and then. One cat is enough, especially if she is the primary care giver for the cat. More so, if she is the one who pays for all the food, litter, toys, licensing and shots and veterinarian visits, etc.
So just go easy on Mom, she is probably doing the best she can right now.
2007-03-27 13:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same situation we had. We had a cat over a year ago who passed away. And later on we wished to have another [not to replace him of course!] and our mom overreacted. She said that one was enough, what if it dies. She tends to overreact when bad things happen, also despite the fact that she was totally fine when we got the cat who died, r.i.p.
But luckly, we found a stray kitten and once our mother saw her helplessness/cuteness she said yes, and it's been a year and we still have her. Maybe you can try looking for a cute stray?
And if all fails, talk to her again and point out how you really feel. And don't let it get to yells because that won't help anything at all.
And letters don't work. Because she'll read it, argue it, and won't hear your arguments toward her arguments and it'll all be one big flop.
2007-03-27 21:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by blocupables 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think lawyer. Okay, now you need to rationally discuss the difference between a cat now and a cat then. Was it the same way? did something change? if something did change, don't mention that, only mention pros. Discuss why you can't have a cat now, and why you could have a cat then. Your 25 y/o, use that to your advantage. Itc ould work. It's not like a ten year old asking for a pet he won't take care of. Your mature enough, right?
2007-03-27 20:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter asking them to buy you a cat make sure you say please and do that about once a month for three month and if they keep saying no wait 'till next year and do that again and if they say no for the second time you may have to accept no as their final answer.
2007-03-27 20:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by happyglo1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would beg if i was in your position but, in the mature sense, tell why you want a cat and state you will take full responsibility for it.
2007-03-27 20:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to shelter and bring one home and say that it was going to be thrown out
She is probably pining
Theres nothing like new love to heal a lost one
2007-03-31 12:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come up with a list of pros and cons and ask your mom to sit down with you and rationally go over your list even ask your to come up with a pro con list of her own. I'm sorry to say that it's your parents house and it's their rules. enjoy the one cat you do have.
good luck!
2007-03-27 20:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by catloverme123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make her feel guilty. Use your disability for your advantage. Shame her for threatening to leave her disabled child over a pet.
2007-03-27 19:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Leigh K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋