okay so ive caught my boyfriend in some lies and their not really lies just they are details he leaves out. for example hes made promises to me and when he breaks them he knows he hurts me really bad. he says he loves me so anyways i just want to know why hes not honest with me and always leaves the specifics out. mature answers only. I also want to know if that means he really doesnt care cuz this happens kinda frequently. thanks in advance
also i dont know if this is relevant but hes always the one bringing up the future he made me go ring shopping and he says he wants to start trying for kids but i need to figure this out first
I know i posted this before but i didnt get many answers
2007-03-27 12:49:46 · 27 answers · asked by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he probably left out the details because he thought they werent important. of he was just tryign to cut the story short. im just trying to look on the brighter side of things for you. we us guys make promises we try not to break them but at times it happens just cuz we dont htink too much. you knwo how it goes. but if he took you ring shopping and all that he must love you alot. but than again good luck with this and i hope everything turns out for the better. just keep a eye out. and do not be over paranoid.
2007-03-27 12:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by anthony y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows he's hurting you really bad, then I don't think he really cares because you don't hurt someone that you care for. Also you mentioned that he does this frequently, so my opinion is that even though he wants to take you ring shopping or he seems like he really cares for the future together, you will never be comfortable because you will never know if he is lying to you or not because as you said before, he does this frequently. Does he really mean it when he tells you that he loves you? Usually that phrase is thrown around a lot, but often with no meaning behind it.
2007-03-27 20:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by mango y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most mature answer I can give you coming from a 41 year old.
DO NOT MARRY OR HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS MAN.
If he is not honest with you all the time then he is a liar
don't be dumb of course he is going to tell you he loves you.
Ring shopping does not mean anything if he was sincere
about the ring thing he would just buy it and propose to you.
He sounds like he is fool of it. Be smart and just date him
longer so you can start counting the lies then you will wake up.
2007-03-27 19:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he dose care about you but, your right about figuring this out before commiting to him. I would talk to him ask him how it would make him feel if you left out these details. Let him know that his honesty is a must not something that can be fixed with a sorrie. Believe me after a while sorry dose not mean shi@. When the same thing keeps happening.
I would let him know that he is talking about getting married or picking out a ring for you, and kids. This is a serious matter that your not taking lightly. You want, need, and deserve to know if he is just a complete lier or if he is honestly forgetting to mention these things or is he just looking to avoid a fight?
Tell him about this 3 yr. old that is hitting his sister, then he tells her sorrie, but then to immediatly hit her again, and a sorrie. That really dose not mean much to the sister now dose it, she knows that he said he was sorrie but his actions show that he is not.
Sorrie means taking that extra step next time to be sure that this dose not happen again.
Good luck.....
sometimes with men you have to break out the crayons an draw them a picture!! before they see anything.
2007-03-27 20:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he is leaving out.
If it would be something like a wife and four other kids then I'd be a bit worried. [ that was sarcasm]
How old are you guys? if you aren't out of your teens I'd just sit back and relax for a bit. Think to yourself if you want to be with this person for the rest of your life.
Tell him you dont like the fact he doesnt tell you everything. It could just be a slip of the mind. Something he doesnt view important that you do.
Communication is the greatest bound in a relationship.
Good luck
2007-03-27 19:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by jenimiper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a typical guy. Guys leave stuff out and don't tell everything (some do, but a lot don't). They either don't think the information is relevant or they don't think you'll care. He probably cares about you, but he needs to stop making promises if he can't keep them. Tell him to only make promises if he can keep them. I never make promises, because I can't predict the future, so I never know if I'll be able to uphold my end of the promise.
2007-03-27 19:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Missy (aka: La Tigres) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No trying for kids until you get this communication issue sorted out!
It does sound a bit self-centered of him, but you weren't awfully detailed about what "leaving details out" actually means. Does he do it on purpose? Does it not occur to him that you'd want to know the details? Are the details relevant at all, or are you being a bit insecure to require them?
Not quite enough information here. My best advice is to hold off on kids until you work this out.
2007-03-27 19:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's funny that you have the word 'mature' in your request for answers because if you knew what that was, you'd know that your boyfriend has some growing up to do. that is why he's not 100% up front with you. he's selfish and he doesn't always use his head. it's not just him, a lot of young guys are like that. will he ever change? that all depends on him. can you make him change? no. not at all. if you want to have a future with him, my suggestion would be to not rush into anything until you know that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. if you don't know or if you have doubts... chances are he's not.
2007-03-27 19:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he feels that the details that he is leaving out are really unimportant or may unnecessarily upset you over some thing that is of no importance. It also sounds like he is serious, If he wants you to pick a ring. Just explain to him that you need all of the information, but DO NOT blow a gasket if one of the details is some thing piddeling.
2007-03-27 19:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by geezerrex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might very well care about you *in his own way*. What you have to figure out for yourself is whether HIS idea of caring is compatible with yours. If he does things that you feel are unacceptable in a long-term relationship, it's not the matter of him caring about you or not; it's a question of whether you will be able to tolerate this behavior in the long run. Everyone you meet will have some quirks and imperfections about them; you just have to choose a person whos quirks you can tolerate. No matter how much he might care about you, he cannot magically change his personality; if you feel that you two are not compatible in some major issues - please re-think this relationship.
2007-03-27 19:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋