I see my bf in the mornings for a couple minutes and then afternoon for literally a couple minutes. i usually call him about 3 30 for only a couple minutes and call him later around 9 to talk on the phone. I want to see and spend time with him at least twice a week but it isnt working. he'll make plans with me and then cancel cuz hes made plans with friends, i don't mean to be selfish but he does see his friends and hangs out with them everyday for at least three hours, he spends about two hours everyday lifting and just to have time to his self, which i think is great and encourage. but still i want to be in his schedule somewhere...am i asking to much, do i not need to call him at night to talk-would that irritate you if a girl did that, he never complains about it or acts like he doesnt want to talk but that dont mean anything...am i asking to much of him to give me mre time. i dont know how to explain myself, i want him to be happy and if himself and friends make him happy, then ok
2007-03-27 12:42:44 · 10 answers · asked by lowesjj48gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably too young for a girlfriend and having one isn't very important to him at this age.
2007-03-27 12:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say step away from the relationship. He obviously values his friends,and its nothing wrong with it. But it is clear,that he isn't ready for a girlfriend. I don't think asking for very little time is being selfish at all. You aren't his girlfriend just to be there and take the name at random. Maybe you should lay off for a while,see how he reacts to the situation. If he values the relationship anything you say,should mean something to him.
2007-03-27 19:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too busy playing just now to be tied down. if you were married, you'd have a leg to stand on. But he hasn't commited to you yet, so this is what you have to go on. If you don't like this treatment now, then get a new boyfriend. After marriage, you can only "expect" him to treat you the same as BEFORE marriage. And of BEFORE marriage ain't so great, then MOVE ON. Maybe by moving on he'll realize what he's lost and will change. Meanwhile you have the hope of finding greener pastures.
2007-03-27 19:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by beewatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, sorry to say but he is 'just not that into you.'
Plain & simple-- if he was, he would WANT to spend time with you, would NEVER cancel time with you for friends, would choose YOU over his friends, and would not have as much time to himself. The point of a relationship is to see eachother often, becuase you are supposed to ENJOY hanging out with eachother. It sounds like you obviously do, but it is a one way relationship- he does not feel the same way, clear as crystal. nothing you can do will make him want to spend more time with you, exept maybe dumping him. He knows he has the upper hand and that you like him more so he knows he can cancel on you anytime and not spend time with you. if he liked you, he would call YoU. Girl, do not waste your time. Read between the lines, and Break up with him (if you want any chance of him respecting you or liking you more). I know its hard... but if you don't you will just look like a fool in his eyes. Move on to someone who wants to spend time with you, not 'pencil you in'. I'm sure there's plenty out there.
2007-03-27 19:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by katie colmes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he needs to take time for u and i think u need to say something to him because if u dont he will do this to u and never get to be with him and if he cant make room for u then u need someone eles
2007-03-27 19:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by KIM B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his girlfriend and he doesn't want to spend time with you?
Find somebody better, this guy does not care for you if he did he'd make time to be with you.
2007-03-27 19:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not asking too much at all, hell, you're not asking enough in my oppinion. You should talk to him about this, he is obviously neglecting the relationship.
2007-03-27 19:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Ne&Tu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it up. think hes using you and has someone
2007-03-27 20:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i wish my girlfriend wanted to be with me more like you want to with your boyfriend..
2007-03-27 19:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please... leave the poor boy alone already.
He's a young guy. And lest we forget, YOU'RE NOT MARRIED!
2007-03-27 19:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋