wrong if you are always defending them.
2007-03-27 12:35:57 · 8 answers · asked by dlbonhomme 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should always protect your children.
The difference between defend and protect, is that you let them suffer consequences commensurate with the crime. If they are innocent you defend. If they are guilty you protect against inappropriate consequences.
If you always defend them, they will never learn about consequences which will leave them unprepared for life apart from you.
2007-03-27 13:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by 10 Point Shoe-In 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can't say why that preacher said that, but your child needs to know that sometimes there is punishment involved when they do wrong, and you are not going to be able to protect them from that punishment. Sometimes the punishment is going to be by the school or by the law depending on what is going on with your child, and though you are there to make sure the punishment fits the crime, and that your child is not being wrongly accused, your child still has to pay for what he she did wrong. In the Bible it says that we are to obey the laws of the land, and for young children some of those laws are in schools. They must obey them like it or not. So I dissagree with the preacher, I think you are right to question what he said. Preachers are people and they do make misstakes that is why we should be reading the Bible on our on time and know what it says.
If you are not a Christian just know that that is how some of us christians think.
2007-03-27 16:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you misunderstood him. I look at defend as to protect them from the evil mother f-ers out there. But I also want my daughter to be able to defend herself. My dad taught her how to kick or punch a guy where it counts (she is 3 1/2) and both me and my dad have explained to her that she is to only do that if some strange man or even a woman try to take her from us. She idolizes her "Gampa". And she can throw a good punch.
2007-03-28 19:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child cant count on you then who can he count on? You teach your child right from wrong in your home not in public. I think what he meant was if your child says he didnt do something and the teacher says he did you defend your child. If someone is out to hurt your child you defend him. GET THE PICTURE?
2007-03-27 12:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do believe you should stand by your children no matter what they do they have to know you are there for them but
you still have to discipline there actions
I do not mean if your kid steals a car you go get them out of jail and say they didn't do it i mean you stand by their side and and make them be responsible for their actions after all if you parented right your kids would be happy well adjusted law abiding so if they have done something wrong you have some blame in it to
2007-03-27 12:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's such a tough question. Every parent and child is different.
I teach my child by explaining things to her in a way she can understand. and I show her love and support so that she can grow up giving back to people the love we gave her.
And the rest is just hoping she listened and learned.
2007-03-27 12:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start teaching right from wrong by LIVING it, and being a good ROLE MODEL for your children that is how you teach them
2007-03-27 12:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should defend your children from external threats...
it's a parent's job to protect their children, meaning that you also protect your children from themselves. love is not the same as tolerance. if you really love your kids, you shouldn't tolerate it when they are doing things that are self-destructive.
2007-03-27 12:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by miokti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋