help me understand why?

Question

Am i guilty for not feeling guilty?
Am i guilty for not feeling guilty?
i am a christian and before i went back to god i was dating a married woman yes i know that is a sin so we broke up but it was on good terms well we r freinds and we where chillen at my house and we ended up kissing and well i did not feel guilty abought it so does that make me any less a person
let me revise this she had already left her husband before we met but her divorce is not finalized

Answer 1

Guilt pushes you away from God.
Conviction draws you closer.

What makes you think you are a Christian? Did you do a ritual? Did you take a sacrament or read the Bible? What? Seems to me that if I were doing things against the Word of God and not getting any promptings from the Holy Spirit would give me pause regarding my walk.

If you are looking for justification, you came to the right place. Everyone will give it to you at the expense of your soul. They might even send you to Kashmir for pity sake. But if you want the TRUTH, you are going to have to have a heart to heart with the Lord, not a bunch of Yahoos! So, how much is your salvation worth to you? God is asking you that right now.

Answer 2

I am not sure you don't feel guilty, since you are here asking this question, not only once, but twice!
Also, the way you worded it..."before I went back to God"...sort of telling us you had left God? And it was during this estrangement that you met this married woman and had an affair with her. The two of you were "chillen" at your house...Dude, I have to wonder why the two of you were alone in the first place..."chillen", yeah, OK. And then you ended up kissing.
And then you find it necessary to tell us again that you don't feel guilty.
She's left her husband, and evidently is in the process of getting a divorce. Some Christians are going to look down on her for this, and you too, but I think that the whole divorce issue ought to be between the parties involved and God. Only God has the right to judge a person's heart.
I'm assuming you have no other ties at this time?
So....where are we?
You were having an affair with a married (but separated and in the process of getting a divorce) woman during a time when you were estranged from God. Evidently you still have an attachment to this woman.
Do you love her? Possibly thinking of marrying her once she is free?
If so, can't the two of you wait?
If you are just "sleeping around" and there is no intention of making a commitment ever, and you have the nerve to tell yourself you have no guilt, there is no point in talking to other Christians anyhow.
You need to have, as someone else put it, a good heart to heart with God.
Dude, are you SURE you are a Christian? Or are you just playing around?

Answer 3

Are you feeling guilty about not feeling guilty?

Are feelings deceive us, you cannot always trust them. The heart is desparately wicked, as the Holy Bible says. If you know it was wrong, then you know that you should feel guilty about it.

Consider what the Bible says of these times:
1Timothy 4:1-3 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.

It goes on and on there, but the do you see that part about "having their conscience seared with a hot iron"? That means that they will be so wicked for such a long time, that they will no longer feel guilty about sinning. This is just a guess, but perhaps you are finding yourself getting to this point.

Check the Holy Bible for what it says on adultery and about what is considered proper in a divorce and in remarriage. You could be causing her to both commit adultery and to not come back to her husband. There is no way for us to know how deep all of this sin goes, maybe her husband is committing adultery and on and on that goes.

I am not sure what the solution is, for I can never get through to these people. If they are sinning and have no guilt, it is usually because this is what they really want, they are their only god. I already mentioned how that comes about in the first place.

Another cause is injustice. When people see injustice for a long time, they just give up and decide that there is not justice, so why stand for what is right? Then we have sin and lawlessness in the land. This causes people to hate justice and their consciouses get "burned" as if by a hot iron -- a permanent damage which is extremely hard or impossible to reverse.

Now Jesus Christ can do anything, but some people will never go to Him and accept Him. If you are feeling guilty about not feeling guilty, then perhaps there is a part of you in which you can open up to Christ, repent of your sins, and let God reign in your life as your God. Then you can ask Him what the right thing to do is in these situations and you can read about it in His Word, and get busy believing and living God's Will.

Answer 4

As a Christian you will know what the word of God say on this subject. Adultery is sin; fornication is sin; lust is sin. Better to feel convicted of the sin than to feel guilty. As a Christian, you are well able to ask this question to your Lord, who is Jesus Christ. He holds the only answer you need.

Answer 5

Dude, why are you freakin out about this? If anything, God is a male chavinist and will be stoked that you scored some skany marrried chick, who is the real source of all evil on this earth - according to Christian doctrine, that is...

Or, you can live life as an Atheist would - did you hurt anyone by engaging in sex with this person? Then whats the freakin problem?

Answer 6

Just because you don't "feel" anything does not make it okay.
It's okay to be friends with this person as long as it stays that way for now. After the divorce is final, and you truly have strong feelings for this person, proceed with caution.
Before anything else though, you should ask for forgiveness. Get stronger in the Lord while you wait and see what His plan is for you. It may not be what you think.

Answer 7

Trust your instincts. If you don't feel guilty, and I mean deep down (your presence here asking this question seems to indicate some conflict over this issue) then don't let others make you feel that way.

Answer 8

Guilt has nothing to do with sin. It is either right or wrong to do something that God says is wrong so it is God you need to ask this question of. I can not cast the first stone.

Answer 9

David, you need a good therapist, not Yahoo Answers. Good luck to you! People usually feel guilty when they do something wrong. You need to define right from wrong for yourself.

Answer 10

She is still married and if she divorces and you marry her you are an adulterer. If she leaves her husband she needs to stay single until her husband dies. Instead of helping her get out of her marriage, you need to help her mend fences with her husband.