I mean i love him all the way, and I want to get married and so does he, but i dont want to lose my family
2007-03-27 12:33:09 · 13 answers · asked by Stephanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wonder why 'everyone' hates him. Perhaps there is something to it, perhaps not. Stop and think with your head first for a bit. If the reasons for peoples objections are unfounded, then follow your heart.
2007-03-27 12:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by chekeir 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, wait a minute...
Your family and friends are in your life to help guide you as you go through life. I know as well as any, that your parents aren't always right, but have you stopped to think about why no one likes him?
Think about their reasons? Are they valid? Do you think there's truth in what they're saying? Maybe you need to take a step back and ask yourself why others don't like him.
Your family most likely wants the best for you and if they see you going into a marriage with someone who's not good for you, they are going to want to try and prevent it...consider what they say and how they feel about him and weigh it up for yourself.
Don't rush into a marriage either...be sure you know him for real before committing your life to him. Marriage is a very serious thing, and if there's any reason to doubt him or your future together, you need to spend some more time thinking about it.
All the best,
-emay
2007-03-28 00:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by emay02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's concerning why everyone would hate him.....right? There must be a reason for this. Probably because they want the best for you and they feel that this person may not be all that you deserve. Your family could be totally out of line, but I would put some deep thought into what they are saying before moving any further with the relationship. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-27 13:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's up to you. There would have been no way I would have married a man that my family didn't LOVE, not just like. After all, he is joining the family!
2007-03-27 13:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got to tell you, I have had to ask this question before. And it sucks, and I'm very sorry that you find yourself in this situation.
I had dated my fiance for three years ( it was a long distance relationship), and during those three years my parents did everything in their power to break us up. They HATED him and thought he was too low class for my family's "aristocratic" blood. When he asked me to marry him last september, I said yes right away.
But when I told my parents, they disowned me on the spot. They wanted nothing to do with our wedding, marriage, children, or future. It broke my heart, but I had to stick by the man that I loved.
I don't know how your man treats you, but if he's the best thing that ever happened to you and treats you like a princess... follow your heart and stay with him. Families can sometimes misjudge people, and only see things from the outside. They don't know how the two of you are when you're alone.
Just to let you know --- even though my family isn't paying for our wedding, they bought me my wedding dress and are coming to my wedding in June. My sisters are going to be my bridesmaids and my nieces are going to be my flowergirls. Sometimes things just work themselves out for the best --- just pray.
Good luck!
-Sarah
2007-03-27 15:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by RaginCajun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he is a good man, then yes. But consider what your family is saying. Only you know your family, are they just trying to be nasty or could they be looking out for your best interest? Sometimes we don't want to see the bad in the people we love. Could it be that your family is more objective? I don't presume to know your situation, but from what little you said you should probably take time to make sure that your family might have soem valid points.
I have a family member that is crazy in love with a man that has done his best to run her in the ground. He has cheated, lied, stolen, doesn't help take care of the two young children they have, and just about naything else you can think of he has done to hurt her. But she refuses to see any of this b/c she "loves" him. What she loves is who she wishes or wants him to be.
In my family, we may fight with each other, but if someone tries to hurt one of us, we come together to protect that person. Just consider everything before you take that step. It is a big commitment.
Good luck. Hope things work out for you!
2007-03-27 12:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by famurattla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family acted like a real family, this wouldn't even be a question at all. I think it's sad that you even have to consider this question. Sorry, sweetie.
Having said that... here is my opinion. :)... if you are in love and he is the best in every way... I say go for it! Your family will either accept and love him just like you or they will have to step back. YOU are choosing him to be with and if he is that great, he will take the place of the jerks that don't care if you are happy or not.
Good luck with this. I wish you two the best!! :)
2007-03-27 12:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Do they hate that you are getting married? or hate him? If its him, you need to do a thorough check.....there is a reason they say love is blind. These folks are the same DNA as you, and unless you have lived away from them over 5 years, your value system and beliefs are probably similar and they are seeing things you aren't. Get to the bottom of it first.
2007-03-27 15:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is good to you and can provide the things you need then you should not worry about what your family says. My family hated my boyfriend but I didn't care, he took care of me and we had 3 lovely kids. My mom and dad realized he was really a good person underneath that bad boy appeal.
2007-03-27 12:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by southg11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just have to choose.
Perhaps your family has a point. Don't dismiss their opinions right off the bat. But if you feel this is the person for you, then you have to be prepared to stick up for him for the rest of your days.
2007-03-27 12:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋