When I was gone over the weekend my boyfriend chatted with a women who invited him for drinks. He agreed, then decided not to go, He emailed her and said can't go that I was coming home, let's go another time.(mind you I was not coming home for yet another day) He did not tell me about this situation. While going on to our computer to check my email. Her response to his decline email, was up on the screen. I found this and got very angry and felt he was hiding something or cheating on me. He says he is not that if he was he would have gone for drinks with her. I need an outsiders opinoin on whether or not he is being truthful or just lying!?!
TOTALLY CONFUSED!
2007-03-27 12:31:49 · 12 answers · asked by Kelly A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he was already feeling guilty, otherwise he would have went with her to get drinks. You should be happy that he didn't go; obviously he is mature enough to see the potential of a bad situation and smart enough not to get involved. I would talk to him and just ask him to be more forward with you in the future. It is possible that he didn't tell you because he was worried you wouldn't believe him, or he didn't see it as a big deal since he didn't go.
2007-03-27 12:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by AngelEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly did her response 2 his email say. If u read her e-mail carefully u can get a feel of how the conversation went. Even though, he did not go THIS TIME he is playing with fire cause next time he might b tempted 2 take another offer from a woman. Remember u only hearing his side of the story! and how long has he been conversating with females on the internet-that is not is first secret nor his last.
2007-03-27 12:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding this incident from you was lying. Chatting with women behind your back was lying. Telling the other woman you were coming home that night was another lie (he didn't have the guts to just say no, he had to make up a lie).-- looks like your boyfriend is a big liar.
I don't know if I'd call it "cheating" but it's dishonest and deceitful
2007-03-27 12:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not cheating YET but he sure left the door open with that email. It seems to me that he should have said something like. " Thanks for the invite but I am committed in a relationship but if you would still like to go out for drinks then let's wait for my girlfriend to come back and we can all go out." Also, you said that he didn't tell you about the invite and you found out by accident. Why would he not tell you? Are you the jealous, controlling type? If not then definitely keep BOTH eyes wide open! Good Luck. I hope I am wrong.
2007-03-27 12:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one.... He MAY have thought about it but then decided not to for some unknown reason.. If he wanted to cheat on you,he would have just done it. After all, he was not expecting you home untill the next day and he had the perfect opportunity and did not take it. Doubt he is cheating
2007-03-27 12:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same way as you curious,But honestly it kinda is weird because he didn't go,Considering like you said it was only for drinks,There is a possiblity that it was more than that...Or again maybe he isnt lying find out about this girl,Talk to her...But do it serectly,Some way...He he can't bring up about saying you have no trust in him,Guys always say that crap...
2007-03-27 12:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't the point....that he DIDN'T GO...really the point???
ON his own..WITHOUT your coercing...he made the right choice..
did he do it in the right way? no...but THAT will be on his mind...
the reason guys leave their girls is because
1) if she goes away..and something like this happens...then she says..she knew it...which means..she NEVER trusted him..whether he makes the right decision or not...
that lack of faith and trust..is NOT just because he did it before..she just naturally DOESN'T trust him..
2) Women feel the incessant need to remind their men of all the things they do wrong...as if men need to be reminded of their own mistakes...you think we don't know that we screwed up???? not only do we screw up when we make the wrong decision...we screw up when we don't do EVERYTHING that we should have at the moment that you asked...
3) women complain about everything they can get their hands on....but if a guy complains at all...he is insensitive..
2007-03-27 12:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is thinking way to hard about cheating on you. It's only a matter of time.
The fact that he didn't go is not as meaningful as you think. However you are right, he has not cheated...yet.
2007-03-27 12:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends how he acts around you....If it the first time u caught him lying to u..thats ok not good but ok......
if its been more than once try asking him again and see how he acts about it
good luck
2007-03-27 12:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by :DDtortillas:DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was lying like a rug
2007-03-27 12:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋