how can i make myself stop loosing interest in him?

Question

my boyfriend is really great, but its sort of awkward between us.
its almost been 2 weeks and i dont think i like him anymore. i'm trying to wait it out since we havent had any alone time (and we havent kissed yet either) but right now its a little tiny spark and then the rest is back to being friends. but when we were just friends, there was a spark. how can i change it?

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but for some reason i really don't want to break up with him.

haha and don't worry. i mean its only been 2 weeks. not even close to enough and i know i need to get to know him better but if i am ever even slightly alone with him, his ex girlfriend pops up and everything is like.

bleh

Answer 1

hmmm....
I know how that feels, and it can be pretty annoying.Do I like him or do I not? Should I dump him? Well, think of it as if you did dump him. He wouldn't be yours anymore. Imagine him with another girl or someone. How would it make you feel? Do you still like him or do you not mind seeing him with other girls?

BUT

You also might be feeling this because you HAVEN'T done anything with him. If you kissed him you probably would change your mind. if you want alone time, go to the movies. It's the perfect place for a kiss. I had a boyfriend that I felt this way with and I first kissed him at the movies and I was all over him again.

Answer 2

put it to you like this....... how would you like it if someone forced their selves to be interested in you out of somewhat pity. that's not even cool... remember what goes around comes around and hits you twice as hard.... let the relationship run it's course. if it's not there anymore then you have some decisions to make....cause the last thing you want is a ugly break-up... if there is still respect between you to then end it that way but if it's worth hanging on to (with pure love.. not half ***) ..... do the right thing ........ whatever it may or may not be....

Answer 3

well what attracted you to him in the first place? was it his pretty face? or his personality? if it was the first one, then something inside of you is relizing that this person is really flat and not that interesting.

otherwise your not looking in deep enough, doing stuff together, talking, etc. but all in all, there might not be any huge sparks, and sometimes there is less than that. love grows.

Answer 4

You can't change it. It sounds like you and him are just meant to be friends. You can't change how your heart feels about someone. Sorry to have to break it to you but if your losing interst in him then you and him are better off as friends. You can't just make your heart feel for someone that it doesn't.

Answer 5

just tell him you guys need to either speed it up or slow it down. if you tell him to speed it up then you go for the kiss if he is too much of a chicken (guys are like that).If you tell him to slow things down he should realize that you want more to the relationship. so yeah thats my advice.......Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

you could be the one that first kisses him (just a peck)

then see what happens

he could be from a non demonstrative family

Answer 7

well you really can't
you don't feel him lke that
you don't like him as a bf
you can't force it on yourself
btw. 2 weeks isn't really that long

Answer 8

YOU ARE FINDING OUT THAT YOU ARE WORTH MORE AT THIS STAGE OF THAT RELATIONSHIP IF YOU CAN CALL IT THAT. JUST KEEP MOVING, DON'T FORGET TO CONTINUE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN BUSINESS HERE. YOU CANT CHANGE ANOTHER PERSON HONEY... IF HE DON'T WANT YOU THE SAME WAY YOU WANT HIM... CUT HIM FREE. ENJOY WHAT MEMORIES YOU HAVE BUT BE FREE.

Answer 9

if you dont have it you dont have it. keep him as a friend and go find some sparks.

Answer 10

okay.stop looking for faults in him.linger on his good points,really let yourself go to what a good guy he is.BANG. you got your interest back