After being raped I became very introverted. Then I felt that I became a hybrid person. Partly human and partly something else. Not that its bad but I feel partially human. I have had alot of bad days but then some where I felt other worldly.
Do you think this is good ? Do you think God did this for me ?
( I'm past the self blame thing so i am good with that. Now i am looking for full new identity )
2007-03-27 12:24:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Being raped is an awful thing to have happen to any one..But yes you can, and you can make it too. God will guide you and lead you...It is good you no longer put the blame on youreslf..That is so important not to blame yourself..I was raped in 70, I didn't blame myself I was lucky in that area...You know what has helped me get through it, I now help others who has been raped or was sexually abused..to be able to speak about it actually helped me alot, and to know I can help others who is or has gone through it..
Good luck on your new self, and God Bless you too
2007-03-27 14:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tough situation. But I believe that you must be a strong person, or else God wouldn't have let you deal with this. What may seem so hard to do, but NEEDS to be done, is to let yourself know that you are not any different than anyone else. And that you are able to live life as you have always dreamed. It's within you. You just must believe. God loves you. And you are all human. Being raped means nothing more than a sinful act on the other person's side. You were an innocent victim. Just love life, and love God and you'll make it through. God Bless, and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-27 19:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by The Random Blonde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can become anything or anyone you want to be as long as you believe that you can achieve this. Faith is a powerful tool, it can change our whole world for the better.
As to if G_d did this to you, I can't answer that. Although G_d in many religions created all things and judge them when life is over, who can prove 100% if G_d does things to us for a reason. Some would believe that G_d chose to have them raped to make them stronger or to show them something that they did not see before, whilst others would believe that each persons individuality and choice made the rapist do what they did to you and that G_d could do nothing to stop it at the time. Your beliefs are your own, only you can say what you truly believe. If you believe that G_d is there to support you and help you find the path you seek, then that is what will happen.
Blessed be.
2007-03-27 19:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be a whole new person. You need to be the same person only with a terrible sin committed against you. If you feel you need to become a whole new person because of the rape he has stolen your identity too which compounds the crime. Don't let it happen. Move on if you can and try to forgive from your point of view anyway, but I would say just become a stronger YOU and not someone else.
2007-03-27 19:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Midge 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you can and you will , people change all the time . to the better or worse . that's up to you .
my opinion , you don't need to become something new.
accept who you are right now , don't think about changing , it will happen on the way .
face your demons.
I can't say that it's good or bad , time will tell you that , not me or anybody else .
I don't think God did this , and I don't think Satan did it.
it was a crime done by a human being who will get it back on him soon , one way or another , by law or by nature . ( you may want to read about Karma )
maybe you are starting to feel a hidden part of you that never been seen or known to you before.
but that was a part of you all the time , it wasn't created that day , it was created the same day you was born . get close to it , feel it , know it , get used to it.
don't look for a new identity , you don't need that .
love yourslef and make your "old" identity better and better .. and better.
remember the past like you remember old movies...
remember good movies to learn how to get more like it .
and remember bad movies to learn how not to see it again.
memories dosen't hurt , movies dosen't hurt
they start , we watch , they end , and that's all .
keep looking for good movies to see in your life ..
enjoy it , and look for a better one all the time
not another identity
good luck
2007-03-27 20:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by X Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search for meaning. Probe your personal faith in the God of your understanding.
Many have found meaning in the fact that their pain enables them to reach out with understanding to others similarly afflicted in a way that no one else can. Meaning and purpose give birth to renewed courage and hope, which are only strengthened by sharing them with others, whether by phone, mail, email, or a personal visit. Knowing that your courage and perseverance may be an inspiration and source of strength to others, whether they are ill or in good health, is not egoism or self centered messiahship. Accepted quietly, without fanfare, such a role is a true ministry to others- and a rich source of meaning for you.
2007-03-27 20:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by inteleyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sounds to me that you are suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome, and you have detached from yourself so as not to feel your pain full force. If it is so that you are on your way to becoming someone else, well the fact is that every body is on thier way to becoming something else, once they get up in the morning, but if it is so that you are on your way to re-inventing yourself, a therapist can help you do that, and also help you with the ptsd. I suppose you could say that God had a hand in it, in as much as such a state is a built in protective response to trauma, so as to be able to cope with it some, if you want to put it that way. But please do consider therapy for this. Good luck...
2007-03-27 19:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about being raped. God can heal you and use you to minister to others that have been raped. God allows things to strengthen us. Let this make you better and not bitter. I pray that God will use you for His glory. Remember 2Cor 5:17 is true. He sends His words to heal us.
Lord bless you.
2007-03-27 19:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. It sounds to me like you should see someone who specializes in post traumatic stress disorder or other survivor issues. Are you doing what you need to do -- going to school or working or whatever? I think you're trying to cope with a scarey event in your life, but there might be more effecive ways of coping. How long has it been since this happened?
2007-03-27 19:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something good came out of it. Who nows everybody is different. Some people choose to cry all day and for the rest of there life and some learn something.
2007-03-27 19:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋