Is this normal?

Question

I'm 16 years old. I'va always loved children, probably because I'm the oldest of 2 plus my 4 half brothers, and also one of the oldest of many cousins and such. Anyways, lately I've been feeling a little depressed, and been wishing I were pregnant, or had a newborn baby. I've actually found myself a little jealous of some girls in my school, one who just had a baby, and one whose due to deliver any day now. Anyway, I was just wondering if this seemed at all normal.

(By the way, don't worry about me going out and getting myself pregnant, I've never had sex, and I'm not going to anytime soon)

And fir the few of you telling me that babies are not all fun and games, I'm fully aware of that. I have babysat for newborns before, and I can honestly say that incessant crying has no effect on me. When it comes to kids, I'm the most paitient person in the world.

Answer 1

It is normal, and for centuries it was normal for women to have children younger in their teens and twenties. Its only been the last centruy that this has changed. You still have natural instincts and feelings and these are just coming into play.

In todays society women are expected to ignore these urges so they can go to college, party with friends, or spend 40 hours a week working a dull job..but supressing this is hard to do, some people really love being mothers just like some people do not. It is deffenitly not uncommon. Just take your time like you have planned and keep in mind the responsibility. You will have a child when the time is right for you, not anyone else, and I'm sure will make a great mom.

Answer 2

It is absolutely normal! I felt the same way (uh only I was 25) and you are quite young. Yes babies are all they are cracked up to be and more, you must have a very caring maternal instinct, and lets face it, its in our biological nature. Women your age (from a biological perspective) should be having kids, and not that long ago, they did. im of course talking about the old days where women had kids from the time they could until the time they couldnt. Society has changed, biology hasnt. So your hormones get all creepy when you see a baby, or a pregnant belly, and that is the path for you, but remember not to rush it. The fact is the world is different, and you have many more options now a days than our foremothers, someone can even teach you to read and write, and you can vote now. We are not baby making machines anymore, and therefore have much more to offer our children when we have them.
In a couple of years you will go to college, and a whole other world will open for you. Although, from the way you sound, you will probably marry pretty young and be a young mother. Hey there is nothing at all wrong with that, as long as you are still wise in your decision. Better that than dying an old barren spinster huh?LOL
Maybe until then you can get a puppy or something. I know its not the same, but it can satisfy that nurturing instinct until all your ducks are in a row.

Answer 3

I don't think this is at all unusual. I went through the same thing, but I vowed to myself and my family that I wouldn't have kids until I was 18, supporting myself, and living on my own. Surprise, surprise, 3 months after moving into my own apartment I found out I was pregnant and 11 days before my 19 birthday I gave birth to my daughter. She'll be 3 this year and her brother will be 1. That's the best promise I ever made to myself and I proud that I was able to keep it. I'm not saying that's what you should do, but I wouldn't change a thing.

Answer 4

It is normal to have the motherly instinct. However You are still very young however and children are a lot of responsibility. As far as having a child goes they are not all fun and games. When the time is right and your are much older you will have your own children... ... It is a tough road to go down for the girls at your school who are more than likely trying to a raise a child on their own. Just go out and have fun being a teenager.

Answer 5

I believe it is normal. The only thing I have been solidly sure of in my life, is that I wanted to have kids (since I was around 6). I had friends who got pregnant in school and right after and I wanted them but did not feel like we (my boyfriend now husband) were ready to give up some partying etc. I had my first baby at 25 and my second at 27. I have held a spot in my heart for my kids for years and as corny as it sounds now it overflows, dont get me wrong motherhood is very tiring and at times a bit overwhelming but well worth the wait.

Answer 6

What you notice on natural, is what is natural. Example: in case you see a individual hiccuping that traditionally natural but when its nonstop for days or months, that is undoubtedly now not natural. Also if a individual used to be born with anything like six hands on every hand would possibly not appear natural to us however it's natural to that individual. So many times it is an man or woman factor that nobody else will appreciate.

Answer 7

It is normal. First off I'm very proud of you for saying that you aren't going to follow your emotions and try to get pregnant. Treasure your purity and keep it sacred.
My suggestion is that you volunteer at a children's hospital or day care center. Or offer to baby sit for some of the girls at your school. I baby sat a ton in high school and college. Anything I could do to get my "baby fix". Parents are always looking for good quality child care. Someone who loves their child and takes good care of them.

Answer 8

people who love children always want one. live your life and realize that you still have a lot of life to live before a baby comes around. they are not dogs or cats that can be just gven away. they are human beings!! i would never be jelous of a 16 year old having a baby. they have no clue what life is about.

focus on school and go on to have a great life before you settle down with a family.

Answer 9

i always knew i wanted children. when both of my big sisters had babys i kinda got mad that they were such bad parents and had babys but i am soo good with kids but was tpp youn. now that i have my little girl my world is perfict! belive it or not dolls help. you dony have to tell any one but get a life like doll and when no one is around go ahead and pretend. i have a collection of dolls.. granted they r like $200 each i dont tell my friends...lol. your time will come and you will be a grate mom... just give yourself time to grow up!

Answer 10

those girls may pretend to be happy about having a baby, and it is a blessing, but they are having the hardest time. If your feeling lonely then get a puppy, just as much work. Or surround yourself with people who are having fun in a good, responsible way. But I think puppy is the best choice.