we been talking for a while but he reall hasnt made an commitment he syaing we should have sex and im like no we should wait and be patient..........and he keeps saying wat are we waiting for...wat should i say to make him understand and be patient.....like wat can i say to get him to wait a while longer
2007-03-27 11:52:36 · 34 answers · asked by daysha p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is simple, you don't want to have sex yet. You need no more reason than that and if he pressures you dump him quick. He does not respect you if he cannot understand that.
2007-03-27 11:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Skyblue Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finally a woman with sense.
If he really likes you, There is no rush about anything. If you really want each other you can wait till it's a sure thing. One thing about me, there will be no sex if I really am serious about you,that is the worse distraction from a love worth while when you are getting to know each other.
The reason there are different levels of relationships is because there is an ultimate Goal.
That you want to build a solid bond is very wise. If he can't respect you for that he's not the right one.
Not to be rude, but I believe in brothels. Let the sluts get a job doing what they do best and let the whoremongers go to them. The men that want to ruin a good woman because they can't discipline their urges should pay for sex! Stop spoiling our descent women by turning them into incidental sluts. What is that?....Think about it. If you sleep with each guy you date. then Go back and count how many guys you dated. you are no better in his eyes than a one night stand, because at the end of the day it was uncommitted sex. men know the difference between Love & commitment women seem to think if they are living together or have a baby together or going steady it's the same as marriage. Nothing is further from the truth. We know it!
When you finally meet your true prince charming you're all used up and have all this baggage from heart breaks.
It's not worth it. There are other levels of affection that are just as fulfilling (kissing done right is just a wonderful as sex, Have you seen the last Emperor? What a tender kiss!). Build true intimacy and put sex where it belongs.
"In Marriage"
You are doing society a big service.
Preventing unwanted birth, children with issues and broken families. Yeah contraceptives prevent child birth but not broken hearts don't allow this guy to cheapen your values because he has no power over his urges.
Listen to your heart and promise this will be the last time you intellectualize common sense. Sometimes we talk ourselves into something we know is not right.
2007-03-28 08:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ophiuchus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I have to commend you for saying NO. You should explain to him that you are not ready and won`t be until there is a commitment. Actually you should wait until there is a marriage. If you do give in to him then he will have nothing to look forward to and he will probably move on to someone else once he has conquered his quest. Hold out girl. Wish there were more young ladies like you in the world. Then there would not be all the unwanted children in the world or single Moms. Stick to your guns, you are a very matured young lady. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-27 12:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready, then that should be enough reason for him.
You could go into the negative aspects of possible outcomes, such as pregnancy. You could also focus on religious aspects if you beleive in that sort of thing.
If you want to save yourself for marriage and have it be something more special to you, then tell him that. If he can't wait until then, then you may not be together for all the right reasons.
But I know it's tough on the poor guy ... just don't "cave" and sex with him just because you want to make him happy or anything. You may regret it. Stand firm and if he's worth it, he'll wait.
2007-03-27 11:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by jaytotheackie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Say this.........I don't want to have sex with you like I said in the past and I hoping you repect my wishes. If he doesn't repect your wishes then you know how he feels about you. Most guys think about sex and having sex a lot. If your man will not repect your wishes then what you have is a guy who wants to get some. If you are young all the more reason to wait for that special guy that hopefully you are in love with and want to spend your life with. I know I know some of you may disagree with that last statement but that's me.
2007-03-27 12:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you respect him and love him and believe that saving that VERY special, very personal gift till you are (married, engaged , you fill in your stipulation of commitment) will be worth it.
Question his respect for you and your commitment to who ever is the chosen one. The ONLY ONE person you will give that precoius gift to...afterall you can only give that gift ONCE in your life.
It is precious and should be treated like the rarity it is as once given, you can NEVER get it back
2007-03-27 12:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by ivanjercenov 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, your virginity is yours,and yours alone, you can choose to give it away, or treasure it like the beautiful gift it is, its the one thing that no one can take from you unless you alow them too. Tell him No firmly, and if he if a true man of virtue, he will repect that. Otherwise tell him to back off, and you get some space between you an him. You will truely be thankful you waited. Trust me.
2007-03-27 11:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl5_45891 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your b/f that you are not ready for sex & he should respect you for feeling that way. If not, then tell him to go find it somewhere else. I applaud you for making such a mature decision to wait. In this day & age, it is very refreshing to hear that a girl is not so eager to have sex.
2007-03-27 11:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him your not ready. There are so many reasons to not have sex. If he doesnt listen to you and keeps on begging you then he doesnt respect you. And as hard as this may be to hear if he doesnt respect you ditch him you deserve to be respected and you have the right to wait as long as you want to have sex. You deserve to be respected, and loved!!
2007-03-27 12:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Find a bf that has some values. This one does not. He will hurt you physically, mentally and your morals will be damaged. Sorry to tell you this, but women like to see what they like, even in jerks. He is being selfish, and you know it! Drop him b4 your life gets worse!
2007-03-27 11:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by desertflower 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋