what should i do...she told me shes lvoed me, she has told me not to worry about them, the only one she wants is me...but i get frusterated with them...i trust hre with all my heart..but like on facebook.i dont want her too loose interest with me because other guys talk to her etc...what should i do :(
2007-03-27 11:47:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and she doesnt hit on them!!
2007-03-27 11:52:14 · update #1
A sure fire way to lose a girl is to show too much jealosy. That is unless you are a passionate extremely sexy latino man. But it doesn't sound like you have her eating out of the palm of your hand.
But I do agree. It sucks when guys hit on your girl and she doesn't discourage them. Not saying she flirts with them, but she might let them go too far without even realizing it. A LOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
of women are pretty gullible when it comes to men and what they/we really want. And many women really don't trust many people. That's why they don't like it when someone doesn't trust them. You're telling her that she's no better than anyone else. That's why it's such a turn off for a guy to be overly jealous.
2007-03-27 12:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your insecurity, and realize that guys will ALWAYS be hitting on her, and there's nothing you can do about it.
But so what? You trust her, and she loves you, so you know she's never going to cheat on you. Even if these other guys can offer better looks, more impressive cars, or whatever, she won't care - she loves you for you, because you can offer her a love that no one else can. You should pity these guys who envy you for what they can never have.
Would you rather keep her in a box? Cut her away from all human contact, make yourself the only person of importance in her life? Wouldn't that eventually starve her soul, make her less interesting, less of a person? It's okay if she loves others - friends, family, career - because it makes her a fuller, richer person; it doesn't take anything away from the love she feels for you. So it doesn't matter if she talks with other guys as friends - the love you share is safe and secure.
2007-03-27 12:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you trust her much to me. Look, I'm not gonna rag on you for feeling that way...I feel the same way about my boyfriend when other girls check him out. But I admit that I don't trust him. He didn't do anything to deserve it (and it sounds like your girlfriend didn't either). It's just a personal insecurity and trust issue on your part. I would suggest you talk to her about how you feel. Don't go say something like "I'm worried you're cheating on me!!!" or anything like that. Just sit down and say "Look this isn't your fault or anything but I really love you a lot and when I see these other guys check you out it makes me worry about loosing you. Sometimes I just need a little extra encouragement that you love me and not them. So if there's any way you can could you help me get over this insecurity?". Girls like to feel loved and wanted...that'll show her that you love her and worry about loosing her. Obviously if you're worried about loosing her then you cherish her and she'll like that. Just treat her like a princess and show her how much you love her every day and you shouldn't have to worry about loosing her. Also, FYI, if guys are checking her out it probably just means she's really pretty and sweet. You wouldn't want her to be ugly and mean, right? So be thankful for what you have and what *she* has.
2007-03-27 11:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF other guys are hitting on her, and she is not giving them the time of day, YOU WIN. Take it as a compliment from the guys...they think your lady is worth chasing, she must be pretty and have a great personality...all those things that attract you to her.
It is how she reacts that should either give you pause or strenthen your commitment to her. If she pays them no mind, and pays you the respect and attention you deserve...you win...and that should redouble your commitment to her.
2007-03-27 11:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by ivanjercenov 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to jealously from a man or woman its cute to a certain degree but when you get really upset due to other guys hittin on her then if you love her get use to it as long as she is with you dont worry or you will become obsessive and drive her away........be glad you have someone that other men find attractive at least you know you have someone and something someone wants and you can do whatever it takes to make your woman happy and keep her wanting more
2007-03-27 11:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust her until she gives you a reason not to.
Enjoy what you have with her, and dont waste your time worrying about everyone else. It puts a shadow on the relationship, and nobody wants that.
2007-03-27 11:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by love anyway 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well... I think u should just stay calm for some days.The more u try to control her or worry about her,the more she thinks u narrow minded and tries to avoid u or irritate u.Just stay calm for a few days and see the result....she will definitely understand u if she really loves u...It really works....
2007-03-27 11:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u kno 4 a fac that she luv u u have nuthin to worry about tell them duded to bac off or u gon hit on them
2007-03-27 11:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Quiana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seems like your just insecure.believe her when she says she loves you & noone else.she's probably really pretty so boys WILL flirt with her,just trust her, and trust yourself enough to know you HAVE her for a reason :]
2007-03-27 11:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hit on them with a chair!
2007-03-27 11:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋