What should I do if my boyfriend keeps flirting with his Ex??

Answer 1

First off, you shouldn't let him flirt with his ex in the first place. Under no circumstances can he be flirting with her...and I usually prefer if my bf is no contact with his ex at all!

The thing is that men are generally weak when it comes to women...especially women that they used to be involved with...they feel more comfortable with them...they are familiar territory! It is true that "ex is called an ex for a reason" but guys don't think about that...in fact, they usually don't think about anything once they get aroused. So, flirting with the ex is a "NO-NO."

So, since he's already done and it seems with little consequences (like no major fall-out from your side), you have to seriously put your foot down, otherwise he will be conditioned that flirting with an ex is OK (and then flirting with a secretary and your best friend etc...then you'll be in trouble)...

What do you do? You have to be prepared to end the relationship over this! I know it sounds stupid, but it's about the principle. He is doing something that is making you uncomfortable and you have to stand up for yourself. You HAVE to!

i know some ppl might suggest that you "get back at him" (aka flirt with your ex or some other guy to make your bf jealous and stuff) but that's stupid for at least two reasons:

- You don't know if the trick will work...it might backfire and he might be like "oh, she's doing it too so I REALLY don't need to be worried about it now..." (not to mention that if it does backfire, you are going to look like an idiot)

- You are trying to have an honest and fair relationship with him; one where you don't need to worry about tricking him cos it's too much stress...

Now, that said, what you should do is have an open, calm conversation with him and tell him that when he flirts with his ex, it makes you feel very uncomfortable and you would like him to stop. If he denies it, you should tell him that that does not change the fact that you feel uncomfortable and that he should respect your opinion and not so things that hurt you cos you wouldn't do anything to hurt him. And if that doesn't do it, just say that it's a matter of principle and if he doesn't stop doing it, that means that he doesn't respect you and you cannot be with someone like that. Tell him that it's up to him: if he wants you to stick around, he should stop flirting immediately, otherwise you'll find someone who will respect you. And you will! Just be strong...and know that it's sometimes costs you everything, but you still have to always stand up for yourself. YOU need to be happy first before you can make someone else happy...remember that and good luck!

Answer 2

That might just be the sign of him not being over his ex I still think it's wrong that when people aren't over others they flirt and cheat like we have no problem with that, i think that we deserve better and that we woman should strive for the better I do not think that you should put up with it, but at the same time I am not going to say break up with him, cause I don't encouage others to break up with each other, Itry to help work things out. The other things the question is, is he fliritng to make you jealous or get some kind of reaction out of you??
I don't think that it is far for men to play around with woman or treat them the way they do, or cheat on them,

there are alot of things to consider on this

just know that that is something that i won't put up with, I feel if he wants to be with her, then that's where he needs to be, not playing with the both of you, thats beneath him. seriously your worth more than the games he plays. just a thought

Answer 3

Make sure it's really flirting first. If it is, leave him. For good. Flirting with an ex means if you ever get married, he might be one of those guys that ends up being a cheater.

Answer 4

Let him know that his inability to pay proper attention to you, and stop the inappropreate attention to her upset's you...not in a jealous way..that is childish...he is not RESPECTING you and you are disapointed in his actions.

I flirt all the time ( at least that is what my wife calls it)...BTW we have been married 35 years...but I never disrespect her...everyone knows I am devoted to her and can never take any friendly conversations for anything more than that.

Answer 5

Other than the obvious solution of dumping him.... start flirting with your ex. Maybe he doesnt realize how it makes you feel, so show him.

Answer 6

first of all he shouldnt have a close contact like that with her, if he has a gf (which is you), second of all why do u tolerate it, or actually why do u let him treat that way? so my answer is dump him, cuz if he's flirting with his ex, he still has feelings and wants her.. is that what you need?

Answer 7

if he knows you are hurt by what he does, maybe he is using you or being with you to making her feel jealous andcome back again. any way he still wants her more he wants you!
flirt with other guys in front of him, then leave him forever!

Answer 8

Talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel. If he still does it or it is obvious there is still something between the two of them, dump him before he dumps you.

Answer 9

flirt with his ex too.

Answer 10

Dump him. Now. He is not really interested in you, he is interested in making his ex want him again by dating you.