Would I be defined as depressed person?

Question

Well, I'm 21 and I have two small children, ages 2. 5 months and a 1 yr old. I was happy when I gave birth to my son, and after it was okay. I got married, then suddenly found out I was pregnant again. I didn't want to have the baby, until she was born. I felt like I was sad, because my son didn't get enough attention as much as he did. I feel like I'm slowly withdrawing away from my children during the week. I love my Husband, and children so much. I also have a recent past of my father molesting me for 8 years and that has brought me down a lot. I used to dress up and like to go shopping, but I don't care about my appearance as much as before. Who can when you are a mom! I woud never do anything to hurt myself or my family. I'm just asking.

Answer 1

you may have post partum. in addition to the family problems you endured. You shouldn't have to suffer and post partum is common. you don't hafta have it with every baby. Just find a professional that is educated in such matters and I am sure it will make a world of a difference. Congrats and good luck!

Answer 2

MY advise to you is to Run not walk to get help. Call your OB or Primary Physician and tell them exactly how you feel. This has nothing to do with loving your children. It's emotionally not being able to draw strength to help yourself in any way due to DEPRESSION you have probably post pardem, along with depression due to your past. Three little ones would be a big undertaking for anyone. Just mentioning that you would not harm your children tells me more than you can every know. Please get help now, and you will see the world in a different light. This is non of my business but don't you think you should consider birth control at this point until you get better emotionally?

Answer 3

*come across what specific circumstances or triggers deliver you right into a "depressed" or down kind of temper, or ask your friends approximately which issues and cases you look depressing approximately. Then consciously attempt to make certain a extra helpful area to those cases once you look not-so-happy. whilst your friends assist you recognize you're in a undesirable temper, locate some thing humorous in regardless of venture is inflicting you to be like that...then you definately would be happier via guffawing and that they are going to get excitement from being around somebody able to make easy of themself.

Answer 4

But you're a mommy of two angels.My questions to you are.#1.Do you love your self?#2Do you love to make other people feel good?#3.Do you love to laugh?
If you can honestly say yes to all of these questions then the answer is no.Another thing is to "FORGET ABOUT THE PAST"!
That's all history and you're powerless to change it.You need to get out and have some fun.Go ride a roller coaster or a horse.Pull out all your favorite music or do something that makes you feel alive.Don't you let anyone here or anywhere else make you feel like you have some kind of disease.You just need to get back to life.And just in case you need something to give you a smile,read these toung twisters.

Answer 5

Its easy for people to tell you to forget about the past and live in the now and be happy with what you have. But when you have gone through something as horrible and traumatizing as being abused by someone who was supposed to love and protect you, those memories and feelings can stay with you for a life time. Those experiences and memories can hinder and even destroy relationships with the very people you love so much. I spent three years in therapy dealing with the abuse I suffered through in my childhood, and until I came to terms with what happened, the guilt, the fear, and the anger I couldn't truly love myself or give my family all of me.
Seeking help for depression and dealing with childhood abuse is one of the hardest things I ever did. Those three years I spent in therapy are priceless. That was over 7 years ago and I can honestly tell you that my childhood is no longer an issue for me, nor is depression (and an eating disorder that I struggled with for 14 years.) They made me a better person, a better wife, a better mom, and gave me the courage to go back to school and get my bachelor's degree in social work.
For your sake, and for your family, talk to some one.

Answer 6

Hey Tammy it's easy for you to compare other people to you isn't it?

Has all that therapy taught you how to love yourself?People who love themselves don't need Prozac.They love to laugh and have fun.As far as being molested I've had more than my share.I'm also smart enough to realize that I can't change the past.My past has nothing to do with who I am.As long as that's where you want to live that's your business.I consider it an insult for you to come in here and try to sell that crap to other people.

Answer 7

Well, you would know if you are depressed. Your past coupled with your current situation seems like you could go and talk with a professional therapist to see what they say. Being a stay at home mom is the only way to go if you can do it. Good luck to you. There is a website I can give you to read up on mental health. It's www.panicsurvivor.com

Answer 8

Being a mom is the best and most important job in the world.. enjoy you time with your children it is the best years of your life.

Answer 9

It seems like you are a very caring person but you have too much of stress about you second pregnancy. You need to talk to your husband about how to give more time to your first kid.

Answer 10

I think you have post partem depression. This is common for new mothers. Time will pass and you will feel better eventually. Seek professional help to help get over your sexual abuse though.