Okay so I've known this guy (lets call him Guy A) since elementary school. We've ALWAYS liked one another but when I hit high school I kinda thought that he'd grown out of it you know? So when I started dating some guy (Guy B) and Guy A found out he got really really REALLY upset with me. He started cursing and yelling and what have you. He stopped talking to me for a while. When I broke up with Guy B I kinda started liking guy "A"-again. (I swear this isn't one of those "Oh she's just lonely" things.) Well we started talking again and he said he wanted to take things slow. Then suddenly the next day-literally- he says that he doesn't feel the same and that he's sorry. BUT when I see him in the halls he's staring at me. When his friends bring me up he'll get quiet or he'll say "I don't wanna talk about it right now". We'll see each other and not say anything. Some friends have convinced me to say something to him- but I'm not so sure. Any advice?
2007-03-27 11:14:21 · 21 answers · asked by Miss G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The weird thing is is that we had a friend in common but things fell out between me and her and I think she might be in his ear whispering things. When things fell out between us I called him 'cause I needed someone to talk to. He didn't answer immediately but called me back to make sure I was okay. I've done the whole 'tell him how you feel' bit-he didn't say anything. Well I kinda wrote it and he read it. I get too nervous to go up to him and say ANYTHING. That and I'm kinda scared that he's like gonna blow up on me and what not. I'm not one to be able to just "flip off" the feelings I have for someone.
2007-03-27 11:34:50 · update #1
ignore him, dear. you don't need a man who's that confused.
2007-03-27 11:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Haiti Cherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you familiar with the concept of "Red Flag"? That's when you've been given a clue that something is NOT right and if you're Smart, you pay attention and heed the warning. You said (about Guy A) that he got "really, really, REALLY upset" with you, that he "started cursing and yelling and what have you"....<--is THAT anything on which to base a relationship? Imagine that bullying in a marriage or with your children...imagine that aspect of a personality when there are financial pressures or health issues....Girlfriend: you need to Wake Up and Pay Attention...run, don't walk to the nearest EXIT....if you need that kind of "unhealthy" drama you should do some self-examination to determine "WHY?"....Good Luck!
2007-03-27 11:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jain D' Vine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay lets begin with the advice:
start dating another guy (Guy C) and make sure you are with Guy C around Guy A. Also make sure Guy C knows that you're just dating him to make Guy A jealous. After a while with Guy C walk down the hall alone by Guy A. If he starts screaming at you and freakin' out about Guy C you've got a shy boy on your hands. He likes you. If not, he doesn't like you.
2007-03-27 11:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by kool aid man. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to him. He is confused and nervous. Give him a chance. He could be going through sociological breakdown after everything that has happened. Tell him your true feelings. If you have to play the guilt trick, it works but I don't recommend using it as your first choice. Hope you get it straightened out.
2007-03-27 11:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just feels betrayed that you dated another man. Although that seems kind of pansy-like, I think you should start talking to him again...just as friends. Ask him how he is...just be nice. Be his friend. Be the friend you guys once were. It might patch things back together.
2007-03-27 11:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he stills has feelings for you but is weary of your true feelings for him. He might be saying well she has known me for so long and went out with someone else instead of asking me out so I don't really think that she likes me. I think that you should talk it over with him and let him know your true feelings for him. It seems to me like he is interested in you but does not want to get played.
2007-03-27 11:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since he told you he had no feelings for you, forget him and find someone else. It seems to me he does like you if he keeps starring at you. but maybe he is trying to get back at your for going out with the other guy. if that is the case you don't need him playing games like that. find someone that will respect you. good luck.
2007-03-27 11:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Guy-A is trying to do is make you feel the way he felt when you were with Guy-B. He truly does like you but he doesn't want to look desperate when you guys get really close.
2007-03-27 11:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Kelsey L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that he's still upset. he doesn't want to get hurt again. he's trying to forget about his feelings toward you. I think that you should go talk to him. Maybe you should say sorry and ask him if anything's going on or if something's changed between you two. \
Good Luck!
2007-03-27 11:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Arya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over him. he started yelling at you because you got a new boyfriend when he was too much of a pussy to ever ask you out.... and then when you decide to give him a shot he acts like he likes you and then dumps you the next day. get over this loser and find a real man.
2007-03-27 11:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I would just talk to him about it and ask him what happened. I would tell him how you feel about him. If he really does still like you, hes not going to be able to hide it for much longer. Especially if you like him too. good luck! =)
2007-03-27 11:21:08 · answer #11 · answered by twoxforxtragety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋