I am having no luck whatsoever meeting new women. A week ago, an ex-gf of mine stopped by, totally out of the blue, just to say hi and see how I am. It appears she is still interested. I haven't been in touch with her for a year, until now.
I originally broke things off with her for a number of reasons, many of which I would probably still have concerns over. She is smothering almost to the point of scary, as she literally used to call me 20 times a day, and can be immature, insensitive, etc.
The loneliness I am experiencing is killing me and I could certainly use some female companionship and whatever else might follow. I almost want to give her a second chance, but my gut says it's not a good idea. I don't know what to do! One of my other female friends who knows ALL the details says I should try her again, but I tend to disagree. I would feel like I am settling and would be using her as a convenience. I'm not that kind of guy! Loneliness sucks!
2007-03-27 11:13:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suppose if she and I could mutually agree to keep things casual, that would be one thing, but I can't imagine her agreeing to that.
2007-03-27 11:15:18 · update #1
Most of you are right and I already decided the negatives outweigh the positives when it comes to reconnecting. It's just the loneliness that is overwhelming. When I said I have no luck, I mean literally, I am not meeting any women at all. It's so difficult!
2007-03-27 11:29:46 · update #2
whoa, if you would be dating her just to have some female companionship, DON'T date her! it wouldn't be fair to either of you. so, just wait a while longer. i know it's extremely hard, but you should wait it out. be patient. an amazing woman will come along. who is not smothering, immature or insensitive. have faith. keep your chin up.
2007-03-27 11:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...well I'm on the same level, so I can't come down on you for considering re-connecting with her.
*Although I do believe there obviously was a GOOD reason(s) you broke it off w/ her in the first place right?!
~~Now it seems like you are being totally negative about your new dating scene just b/c you have had a few flukes, and now you are getting desprate, and hoping that since it's been awhile, that maybe..just maybe this girl has changed, or will change.
**I want to shout off the rooftops NOOOO!! DONT!! But who I am to tell you that? I mean maybe there is a reason she came back into your life, so to speak. Then again you have to consider the timing too...who knows maybe she just got out of a relationship she was having and she is using you as her rebound b/c she knows how you are and that you are vulnerable and she can take full advantage of you.(YES girls do that too guys!) it's called seducing. ANYWAYS.....I'm just trying to throw some caution your way, and let you know that sometimes things are too good to be true, so scope out her intentions first and make sure it honestly feels right to you.
**Whew...ya that is all I got for ya. Just be careful, girls can be sneaky and scandalous too......it's not impossible. **
2007-03-27 11:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one. All you have to do is think back on how things were before and ask yourself, "do I want to go back to her calling me 20 times a day, spending every waking hour with her, having her meet me at work or having to meet her at work, walking down the street like Siamese twins...?"
She will not change, trust me. She will be cool for a week or two and then it will be back to the old ways. And you'll be back to square one.
If you're horny, that's one thing. Bang her and then say,"you know, on second thought, I don't want to get back together." But if you crave a relationship, think long and hard about htis one. I'd rather be alone than smothered. At least alone, I can breathe.
2007-03-27 11:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I believe you have answered your own question your gut said NO listen to it. You know why it didn't work and just because your lonely NOW won't fix bigger problems later by try to do the occasional fix. MOST WOMAN CAN'T DO CASUAL. No matter if they say they can. This loneliness will pass and your female friend you already have hang out with friends and develop a relationship with the God of your understanding.
2007-03-27 11:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, you broke up with her once - that should be enough. And looking for female companionship? Try the local classifieds in the newspaper - or, just ask any of your friends if they know someone that would be looking for a relationship, and try it out.
2007-03-27 11:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nyki Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like u broke up with her for a reason- so i dont think its a good idea to get back together with her. just try harder to meet other women . u wont be lonely forever
2007-03-27 11:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by eatleavz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she is having some hard time getting over the break-up.
2007-03-27 11:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by DreamXGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u still want to be friends with her then maybe u should and it'll be good to reconnect if u still like her so that u catch up with her and talking about the good times ya'll had together.
2007-03-27 11:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead you all ready know what your going to get yourself into, sounds to me like, hole in hand, happy man...good luck
2007-03-27 11:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! she is an ex for good reasons
2007-03-27 11:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋