Long story short, i split with Rob 6yrs ago, was my decision as felt too young to commit, i have grown up a lot since we were last together and have regretted my decision probably for about the past 5 and a half yrs, i think of him constantly and have never really been happy with anyone else, not truly like i was when i was with him. I'm 27 now and still miss him so much, i think he's got a partner i don't know what their situation is tho. I want to contact him and tell him how i feel, i want a chance to lay my feelings down but if he's in a happy relationship i don't want to rock the boat or intrude but i don't know how to manage my feelings...should you fight for the person you believe to be 'the one' or should i stand back and just live with my feelings in the hope one day we'll meet again?
2007-03-27
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I think you really genuinely love this guy, could you send him an email or a text or just a note to ask how he is. By this he'll know you still think about him and if he has got partner then ur just saying hi...nothing wrong with that. Anyone that says keep well away probably hasnt been in your situation. I currently am but I haven't felt like this for as long as you so I cant imagine how eat up you must be inside. Follow your heart and hopefully your dreams will come true. Hope you solve this soon xx
2007-03-27 11:28:30
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answered by chaos4eternity 2
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Invite him out for a social drink or meal for old times sake and tell him how you feel. He may feel the same as you but didn't contact you since it was you who left him. If that's the case you may get back together again. If he has grown away from you and met someone else you may be sad but at least you know now where you stand and be able to get on with your life without wondering, what If?
If he is happy with someone else your call won't make the slightest bit of difference to his relationship but it will make a big difference to your peace of mind. You won't be intruding, believe me. Contact him sooner rather than later. Good luck.
2007-03-27 20:32:40
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answered by barnowl 4
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If you know how to contact him then by all means make the attempt to "run into" him somewhere, and sometime very soon. Or it will kill you for not fighting for what you thought was right, after you get older. These feelings do not go away. Obviously, after all these years you are stilling aching for him, then you did leave behind a piece of you with him somewhere in the past.
If he feels the same way and is available, then when you run into him, nature will take its own course. If you are meant to have him back, it may just happen. We must never stop expecting a miracle ever.
There is just one cautionary note to consider too. What if, after you find him, and he is involved with someone else, but wants to break up with that person just so that he could rekindle his old love with you? People do that sometimes, you know. So, are you the type who could live with herself, knowing fully well that you are the cause of someone else's break up?
2007-03-30 08:03:47
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answered by Chandru M 6
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Don't leave it to fate because fate will most likely never turn out to be what you anticipate. Go after him if you have feelings for him. The worst he can say is that he does not feel the same way about you and if he is in a relationship at least he will know how you feel. The only thing that could hurt you then is rejection. Would you rather go your whole life waiting for "fate" or would you rather assist fate in following your dreams now?!
2007-03-27 18:21:03
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answered by Hopeful 2
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You gave him up, and he has someone else in his life now. Did you really expect him to wait around for you? Perhaps you should have contacted him when you realized your mistake 5 1/2 yrs ago, then things might be different. What you miss is something from the past which no longer exists, try to find something new with someone who is free to be with you now. Don't keep suffering for something which is probably not able to be the same as it was back then.
2007-03-27 18:14:49
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answered by SodaLicious 5
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That's a hard one I'm a great believer of fate but also do think you have to put yourself in the right time and place first as well. Can you find out what his situation is do you still have any mutual friends you can find out from. Think it will be a shock if you suddenly get back in touch if you haven't stayed in contact. Is there anyway you can accidental bump in to him?If you do get in contact also be prepared for him to be happy as he his but I do think time will tell
2007-03-27 18:23:05
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answered by phillippa 3
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you haven't seen this guy for 6 years, there's a strong probability that you are remembering him with rose tinted glasses. the fact that it didn't work out before, but more than that, the fact that you seem to be blaming yourself for this, is worrying. it suggests that you would be starting up your relationship with you on the back foot at the start. i would think the best thing you could do is to put this whole thing behind you, work on your self esteem and then maybe meet someone where you would both be equals and grow together
2007-04-04 04:12:53
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answered by fat momma 3
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well, i don't exactly believe in "the one". i think there are more people out there for everyone than just "the one". you shouldn't ever regret a decision you have made in the past. you made a choice and that has formed your personality. and you can't change it. i feel that you should move on and not worry about this guy. but if you feel led, contact him. see how he's doing. you never know.
2007-03-27 18:14:14
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answered by Anonymous
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you need to talk to him and find out where he stands relationship wise with someone else, if you feel the vibe that he is truly happy with this person than im sorry but you shoould probably step back at that point if its anything less than that than you need to fight fer a chance at true love.
2007-03-27 18:14:11
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answered by lillsz ツ 2
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You should contact him as a friend to see how he's doing, so you can get a sense of his relationship status. Then go from there...you could still be good friends with him even if he's in a happy relationship...
2007-03-27 18:12:43
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answered by Anonymous
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