Good look guy but no girls look at me? :(?

Question

I go to college and I am a above average guy, I've been told by some girls that I am hot, from all different girls. Somehow I know I look good (even strangers agree with me, sometimes even guys compliment me in a non-gay way, saying im a good looking dude). the problem is, when i sit in class, or while waiting for my class or walking in school or in train, girls dont look at me. It makes me feel bad about myself, is there a reason they dont look at me? help :`(

Thanks everyone!, i guess thats the problem, I need to relax more and be like everyone else rather than think i am the "sh*t", i am not, I'll just be normal and chill/relax and be myself rather than constantly worry about if they look or not, once again, all answers were helpful, THANKS!! :)

maybe the fact I am a fashion model got me carried away in 'conceited land' i notice its a bad thing, time for a change!

Answer 1

From reading your text, it appears that you really like how you look, that your appearance is very important to you and also you seem to be 'befuddled' that women aren't sending their admiring glances your way. You are even asking strangers if they agree with how good you look ?

Consider that perhaps you may be trying too hard and obsessing on your own appearance ...and that is such a turn off to most women! Appearance only gets you so far in life... it's the substance of who you are and how you connect to others that is the attractor.

Women appreciate a man who isn't preoccupied with the superficiality of "looks", especially his own. Yes, even though it is the physical attractiveness of an individual that may first catch the attention of the viewer and open some doors however it is the other components of that person that will keep someone interested. The ability to converse, share ideas, to listen ,to make others feel good about themselves and to laugh.

Why objectify yourself? You need to cease focusing on getting women to look at you. Instead look outward and focus on others. When you pass someone in the hallway, see someone in class or the train, don't wait to see if they notice you, take that opportunity to smile and truthfully complement them. Note something about their appearance, a color that is complimentary, the way they smile, a new haircut or outfit. Each time that you make the effort to expend yourself in extending a sincere and truthful complement to another person you affect them, how they feel about themselves and even how the rest of their day unfolds. It's a pay it forward kind of thing.

After awhile you'll see that people are really looking at you and not just superficially...but for the right reasons.They'll even smile to see you coming. When you make someone else feel better, ultimately you'll feel better about yourself and be attractive for all the right reasons.

Answer 2

You know good looks aren't always enough to get a girl to look at you... you have to be approachable. Sometimes guys, and girls too, have this aura about them that either says i'm really cool or i THINK i'm really cool and that last one just turns people off. So maybe be more aware of how you carry yourself and what kind of vibe you're giving off...OR something else to consider, a lot of people are so intimidated by really good looking people that they won't even attempt the approach. If you see a girl you like, why not talk to her?

Answer 3

Hi, trust me they are looking you just don't see them looking at you that's all. Another thing you could do also and don't take offense because I don't know you but if your one of those hotties that just think your better than everyone else because you know dam well you look good just try and loosen up a little, relax and try hanging with more than just one crowd of people, get more social with people and shot a smile here and there at a girl, maybe they are just thinking that if they come up to you they will be rejected.

Anyhow like I said don't take offense I'm just trying to help.

Take care.

Answer 4

the question is: do women get flustered and drop things and make mistakes when you talk to them? do they get really nervous? that's the only way to tell if they are intimidated by you, they will also try to act disinterested sometimes. like they can take you or leave you. it's all an act. whe people are really nervous, they just want to flee, fight or flight response. if they are anxious to get away from you, they are nervous. once you prove you are just an average guy, they will warm up to you and won't be so bad to converse with.

Answer 5

Well, I don't think it has anything to do with the way you look. It is the nature of a girl to look at a guy when he isn't going to notice something we call "sneak a glance". We don't want to make it obvious that we are interested by staring at them. I hate it when guys stare, so why would I want to put one into the same ordeal.

Answer 6

maybe they are intimidated... they probably think they don't have a chance with such a hot guy.. i've been told too that i am really pretty and sometimes this happens to me, and they've told me that they don't want to bother because they assume i have a bf and stuff like that. don't get discouraged. if you like a girl you should look at her first and let her know you are interested..... i'm sure they do look at you but when you look their way they must turn around :) good luck!

Answer 7

Maybe they're intimidated.
That happens sometimes when a girl sees a really good looking guy..she might feel more shy talking to him then some other guy.

Answer 8

you seem soooo confident that i think you need a more than normal attention. hey, people often do not tell us that we do not look good or sexy!! so what they say doesnt have to be necessarily counted on. would you like to be an actor? if you say yes, plus the other thing you said, you might be an attention seeker, or a narcissistic, or a histerionic!!!
sorry, but imtrying to be honest.

Answer 9

the same for me too, except i'm a girl. there isn't really a reason for it. maybe you should make yourself noticed. bring attention to yourself, but not in a narcissitic or cocky way. but, don't worry about it. you'll be noticed some day by an amazing woman.

Answer 10

make them look at you. Go up and talk to them. Do something to get there attention. Ask a very funny question in class. Do anything to show them how great of a personalitly you have.