I met this really great guy and we have such amazing chemistry. I've only been out with him a few times though. The only problem is he's moving in a week and a half all the way across the country. I want to have sex with him, and I am nearly sure I would enjoy it at the time. I just need some other input. Also, this would be my first time having sex besides when I was raped of my virginity. I am 16 years old.
2007-03-27 10:55:29 · 32 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO
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2007-03-27 10:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by neff8684 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really tough because you are so young... there is so much to think about here. Whether or not you're safe, whether or not you're too young, or whether your heart can take it. When we're girls we get really caught up with our "first" and the fact that he's moving across country isn't going to make that any easier for you. Plus "chemistry" isn't a great reason to give that gift to someone, especially when you're so young. I was in a similar situation having had "two first times" if u know what i mean and i regret that the time i actually gave it to someone it wasn't someone i loved.
2007-03-27 11:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by hunnyb1220 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice, but my inclination is to say no. First of all, you are young. Second of all, you obviously don't love the guy and he doesn't love you, so are you willing to share a very intimate moment with him? And if it is great, he is leaving, and having sex won't make him stay, so is that what you want?
I think there is very much a lack of romance in today's culture. The quick "great" sex may leave you feeling empty inside afterwards. You are too young to need to worry about stuff like that. Think about what you truley want, and if there is even the smallest doubt in your mind, and you have to debate whether or not to do it, then isn't that an indication that you shouldn't? Think about it...
2007-03-27 11:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote no. You're not emotionally ready for a one-night stand (so to speak). Don't get sexually involved with someone who is about to leave you (and you may never see again).
Besides...what kind of birth control are you on? Are you prepared to protect against STDs? What if you got pregnant or an STD anyway?
Save the sex for when you are more ready, and there's a better chance that person may be around a while...casual sex isn't something I recommend for teens...it takes a fair amount of emotional maturity to handle intimacy and not involve the heart.
2007-03-27 11:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a look at why you want to have sex with someone you only spent a small amount of time with. Are you getting help for being raped? If not please seek help. Having sex just to have fun at your age is something that is questionable in it's self. And why in the world would you ask perfect stranges to give you the go ahead to have sex? Therapy is a good idea. Good luck.
2007-03-27 11:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but most girl tend to fall in love when they have sex for the first time and even when you do have sex for the first time many people want it again and then hes not going to be there and would if something did happen the first time like the condom broke and you ended up getting pregnant? Would if you did have sex with him and then he never talked to you again? These are some things you should think about.
2007-03-27 11:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by klove1717 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it girl,your still too young for that. And don't you think that the best thing to have sex with is from the guy you love and who loves you? You see Lust and Love are very different thing,so as having sex and making love....
And are ready to take the risk ifever? He will leave you after that,wouldn't u feel about yourself afterwards? maybe not now but once you realise what u did,u will surely feel bad about it and yourself. Regrets comes last,honey. Be smart.
2007-03-27 11:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by blue girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you will regret this decision, i am sorry about your history, but doing this will not make you feel good, because he will have sex with you and will then be leaving, you may end up feeling bad about yourself. Why not just have a nice night together doing something else you both enjoy, like watching the sunset or a picnic in the park, that way you will always have sweet memories
2007-03-27 10:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tought question. On the one hand I don't want to advise some 16 year old girl about sex. Especially one who was assaulted earlier.
All i can say is, it's up to you. If you feel it's the right thing to do and you WANT to do it, go ahead. It sounds like you understand that he will be leaving soon, so you seem to have come to grips with that. You sound as if you know there won't be a relationship. so you seem to have thought this through. I mean you though enough to pose the questions here, rather than just go ahead and do it. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. It's up to you to decide. Just remember to use protection.
2007-03-27 10:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he's moving away, I'd say no. Besides, 16 is way too young. You need to consider all the consequences here - what happens if you get pregnant? Will there be any way to find this guy?
I say save it for someone that's special (your future husband perhaps) to you and that's going to be there when you wake up in the morning.
2007-03-27 11:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all 16 is to young to have sex i should know i had sex at 15 and highly regret it. but if you adament about doing it make sure you use protection if not you could wind up with a baby to take care of all by yourself or a disease. otherwise have fun and dont get caught.
2007-03-27 11:01:09 · answer #11 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋