2007-03-27 10:51:58 · 10 answers · asked by joanne q 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
OK, I think I understand... let me get this strait... your ex's child comes over on weekends to stay with you. he is 7 years old, and he will not sleep unless he has a pampers pull up on and he has a pacifier? right?
well if he still wets the bed then let him sleep in pull-ups. it is much easier on both of you and kids who wet the bed cannot help it. by taking the pull-ups away you might cause a lot of undue stress on him and you. lots of kids wet the bed until around age 10, and some kids wet into their teen years. they will out grow it some time, but if they do not out grow it by age 12 they need to see a doctor. if there is nothing wrong with physically then just let him wear pull-ups until he out grows it. DO NOT PUT HIM ON ANY BED WETTING MEDICATIONS OR NASAL SPRAYS! I spent 2 days in the hospital because of these medications, they cause dehydration. so don't make that a big deal at all.
as for the pacifier, I think he is to old for that, try to replace it with something. try getting him a stuffed animal or some thing. I slept with a stuffed animal until I was 9. after that I did not care any more. I know teens (grills) who still sleep with their stuffed animals. just don't be too hard on him.
how old was he when you split up with your ex? if he was 3-5 or older then his bed wetting, and wanting the pacifier could be explained by the stress put on him by you two. this is very common. you might want to look into some kind of counseling for him.
2007-03-27 13:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bed wetting is a fact of life for many children and is more apparent in boys than girls. My best friends son who is eleven still wears his night pants. They were designed to be worn for even longer than that because they simply cannot help it. Boys have a hormone sometimes that they lack and until they hit puberty, they are not able to control the bed wetting, by taking the night pants from him, you are lowering his self esteem and making sleeping very uncomfortable. I am not sure what a dummy is, but I am thinking is is a passifier. If that is the case he needs to be weened off of it.
I know this may not be the answer you want, but the child needs your patients and understanding. He has been through a lot, after all his parents are not together, and he spends a lot of time in two different homes. Your rules are different than his mothers and vice versa and he has to get used to both sets of rules. Within reason you should follow what his mother does, so that it is easier on him.
I am sorry you and him are having a hard time, it is very frustrating to have to raise a child that is not your on, although you may love the child in some way you still have to make choices that you may not feel is the best or that you feel is best but your partner does not.
Again just be patient and he will grow out of the bed wetting. Take your time weening him from the dummy, and give him something cuddly to hug onto. Never do anything with out the mother knowing it, and if she is not in agreement, then don' further confuse the child by having your on set of rules concerning the dummy. This will then be up to your partner to discuss with the mother and child. I know this is hard to hear but it is true, and even in the courts, the judge will say unless you are married to the father and have adopted the child and the child is permanently in your home, then it is up to the real mother and the father to decide the best course of action. This is what happened to one of my friends she was inferiated, but the fact is it was true and she had to obey.
2007-03-27 17:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that it is in accordance with their adulthood point. i've got had to depart my 8-9 365 days previous domicile for about an hour. All she does is watch television, and she or he has my extensive style and she or he knows the regulations. yet i'm additionally purely approximately 5 minutes away too. i ought to depart her for longer sessions yet then that could make me a baby neglecter in somebody elses e book.
2016-12-15 10:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 7 and insisting things????
you have to just set the rules you are 7 you are at my house and this is how it will be
2007-03-27 14:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all your questions doesn't make sense,,, so when you can type a complete sentence in ENGLISH.. let us know,, until then,, WHO are YOU to make fun of the child?? We all have to grow up too soon as it is... let the kid be a kid .
2007-03-27 10:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by kaykay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
um... try to use correct language and make sure your spelling is correct I am not sure I understand your question
2007-03-27 11:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by lulubelle55555 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2007-03-27 11:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you might try and fix the question
2007-03-27 10:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by katrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what
2007-03-27 10:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What the............??????????????
2007-03-27 11:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋