We were in a relationship for 3-1/2 years then broke up , didn't talk for about a year and then a little over a year ago regained contact. We used to talk just about everyday but this last week or so he hasn't seemed concerned with me or what I was doing. He'd rather hang with his friends and I see him maybe once a month. He calls me his girlfriend from time to time, but then may follow it up another day with the "we're friends" title. I don't know what to think of and when I mention the things he does wrong he gets mad. These things listed above occur from time to time so it's not just been happening this last week. I don't know should I let him go, try to work things out. If I should let him go can you give me some tips on moving on and what I should say to him?
2007-03-27 10:46:42 · 8 answers · asked by Marray 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay YESSSSS girl let him go, he is giving mixed signals and you can't be dealing with that. just tell him that the signals he is sending are mixed and confusing to you. ask him one last time what he really wants and if he says friends, you tell him that you guys are strictly friends and nothing more. it may be hard for you but you cant show him that. if he wants to be with you you need to tell him how you feel and hopefully things will work out!
2007-03-27 10:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by katrina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry to break the news, but it sounds like you are his "in between" girlfriend. Guys like this will disappear for a period of time, they are usually out exploring other options. Guys still manage to keep his guy friends while he is hot and heavy with a girl - his excuse about hanging with the guys is just that - an excuse. If he was into you, he'd be hanging around all the time. Don't wait around for scraps from him - you deserve someone who is totally crazy about you. You won't have time for or even be able to spot the right guy if you are waiting around for this guy.
Why do you have to say anything to him? This is one mistake that a lot of women make (of all ages) - they need to have the final word. I think that they have this need to say something clever in hopes that this guy will see the error in their ways and beg them not to go. It doesn't work like that. It actually makes the woman look desperate. Don't fall into the trap of trying to excuse it by saying "I just need that closure". You don't - you'll find plenty of closure when he is where he belongs - gone. End it like a guy would - in your head, say "F___ it" and move on. Don't waste your breath.
2007-03-27 18:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate but sometimes people just grow apart.Sorry to hear that. You need to forget about it, start focusing on other guys.(I know that sounds easier than it is). I had a girl that I liked forever and we grew apart, it just wasn't meant to be. It sucked at the time, but the hurt goes away when you meet someone who really wants to be with you. You'll find that, look around, I'll bet their's some guys that are interested in you that you don't even notice cuz you were wrapped around this guy. You'll see :)
2007-03-27 17:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by ruttster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Booty call and if you were really his gf he would act like your man and acknowledge you as his lady. If he's only wanting to hang with the boys then he's really not your man since a real man incorporates his lady into his life along with his friends. If you only see him once a month that's not a relationship that's a mere acquaintanceship. I would move on he's a waste of time.
2007-03-27 17:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, respect yourself. you don't need him, he needs you. trust me, the less attention you pay to him, the more he's gonna want you back.
when he feels like it, he calls you his girlfriend, when he is not in the mood, he does not. what kind of S&%# is that? next time tell him that you are not his girlfriend, and that this is not how it works. if he wants you back, he should take the responsibility and work on the relationship, if he is not ready for this kind of commitment, let him go. you are so much better than that, and there is always going to be someone else, who would truly appreciate you and respect you feelings. this guy is just playing with you, it's time you realize that you are not his toy!
2007-03-27 17:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by KATЯ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't feel the relationship is growing or going anywhere you need to tell him that. Life is too short to waste your time on the "not knowing" crap that some guys try to dish out. Move on.....go out and have fun with others and keep yourself busy to occupy your time. sounds to me like he wants you there when he wants you and when he don't ...he don't. You deserve better than that.
2007-03-27 17:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when he clearly say that ""we're friends""
that means that he look up to you as a friend and may be not willing to get involved in deeper relationship.
babe, just go by one fact that's really true, and that is
" just let him go.. if he comes back.. he is yours..... if he do not, just take it for granted that he was never yours"""
2007-03-27 17:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Nishant P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would have stopped such a vague relationship, he doesnt really want you, he is just hangng because he doesnt hae any serious relationships right now, and he feels he needs one! although doesnt feel much respect about you!!
2007-03-27 18:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋