Help me, am i anorexic?

Question

I think im fat. I think i am extremely fat. I am a 15 yr old male, I dont like to eat much, because i dont like to put on weight, my physcologist thinks that i might have anorexia, but i dis-agree, i dont know what to do, I really dont like to be straight forward, but i really get depressed about, it. Now i am sat here typing this, and i dont know what to do, i feel like crying its like my entire life is falling apart, if im honest i feel like topping myself.

Hel pme please, everyone thinks that im "thin" but i still think im fat, and my self-esteem is dropping, guys dont seem to like me anymore. i dont know what to do.

Thankyou all for answering, i was reading through your answers and now im crying, i dont know why it is. I am gay yes, and i just feel so fat, and i hate it i hate myself. The way i look, Sometimes i lie in bed, and i just cry because i dont know what to do, im stck for words i dont know what to do, i have thought i was fat for a couple of years, and its there everyday and i dont know what to do. I am not going to see my pscycologist for a couple of weeks, and my self image is dropping rapidly, and i want to not think about it but i just cant not. I am working at a hairdressers and im surrounded by mirrors, and everrytime i look at myself, i just thinkl what a mess. I feel so messed up!

I have just read up on this Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and i do most of the things that are listed, such as continuously checking to see if i have got any thinner, and stuff like that. I think im going to go to bed and get a good nights sleep, i will leave the question open, and let you all know how i feel in the morning, Thankyou all again.

After A good nights sleep and a good day at work, i feel happy, and that my life may be on the up!

Thanks Guys/Girls :)

Answer 1

sorry to say this hon, but a classic symptom of anorexia is that the person suffering from it is convinced that they are fat / overweight. my sister was anorexic, at the same age as u, (well, between the ages of 14 and 17), and she was totally convinced that she was fat, even though the bones of her spine were that exposed, that the skin used to regulary bleed just from sitting with her back resting against the plastic back of her school chair. u also might be suffering from something called Body Dysmorphia Syndrome - where no matter what other people can see, u can only see bad things when u look at yourself. either way, u need to accept the help that is being offered to u. think about it - they are professionals who have studied these types of illnesses, they will have seen dozens of other cases, they will have done a lot of research, and 99% of the time, their diagnosis are going to be correct ! i suffer from depression too, and i know how hard it is to accept help when u are feeling this low - u just want to be left alone, and u hate discussing things like this with people - especially those with authority, such as your physcologist, but u need to try to understand that people really do want to help you, and they only want u to get through this difficult time in your life. i had to spend time in hospital, and 3 years on anti depressants before i started to feel anything like normal.... it's a long, hard struggle when u feel so low - but it is acheivable, and there are plenty of people out here in Yahoo Answers land who are willing to offer support and help if u want it. feel free to IM me if u ever need to talk... i'm a bit older than u, but i still understand what u are going through.... please, take care of yourself.

Answer 2

*Hmmm...well maybe you are "anorexic", but your psychological state (in your own mind) says otherwise. Because I also think I am "fat" which according to those things you use to check your weight BMI etc. online, I am not "fat" in fact my weight, according to them is 'normal'. I however do not feel good about the way I look at all, which is why I (granted I am a girl)...and everyone is different when it comes to diets, have had success on the South Beach Diet and going to the gym everyday for two hours. I lost the weight I wanted to lose, and felt a lot better about myself. You on the other hand, I don't know your height or weight, therefore I cannot give you my opinion on whether you are fat or not or whatever.
*All I have to say is that, if you are being told by more than a few people including DOCTORS that you indeed are displaying signs of anorexia, then maybe you need to get outta your funk, and see yourself for what you are, and if you stand in front of the mirror and realize you are in fact too skinny for your height, then go ask mom and dad or the doctor for help to correct the problem or TALK to a counselor! Because as lame as it might sound, it can do wonders to talk to a shrink, and just spill your feelings to someone and just have them listen and give you advice??!!
OR if you are "fat" then just get out and hit the gym or go jogging and get on a healthy diet plan....b/c it's true diet and exercise DO work, if you are serious about it.
**Anyways best of luck to you.

Answer 3

wow, this sounds like a serious problem, but not particularly about weight. Have you and your psychologist explored the idea that this could be depression? Many people with depression misdiagnose themselves because they can't really 'turn around and look at themselves face to face', and still others don't even recognize anything is wrong until it gets to this point. Please don't starve yourself and please don't deprive yourself of a life, believe me you would miss out on so much you could never get back. My best suggestion would be to take a light snack, something healthy like an apple, to the park and just walk around. Walk and think and walk and talk and walk and walk some more until everything in your head is cleared out and you feel like you can get through some pretty tough stuff. When you've gotten the bad out, try to replace it with good(and by now with all that walking that you're probably gonna want that apple). Just make a promise to yourself here and now that every day...not for tommorrow, not for yesterday...but just for every day and that day only you listen to what your body needs...is it hungry? ok then eat. Is it thirsty? ok then drink. Is it tired. ok then rest. Are you bored? find something, anything positive, to do. Get out and get some excercise, it's good for multiple reasons.Find a friend or someone to talk to...even just chat about the weather with the guy at the bus stop...anything counts! In general take good care of yourself because even if it is anorexia, even if it is depression, and whether or not you take any of my advice...all YOU have is ONE of YOU and all YOU have is TODAY.If you need anything else feel free to message me. I hope this helped. (=

Answer 4

acta non is talking rubbish, guys can suffer from the same eating disorders as girls, you are doing right by seeing a phsycologist, it sounds like you have a very low self esteem, but you sound like a really nice person, maybe you could do with a course of antidepressants, that will help you, (i am talking from personal experience) you have to put things into perspective, there are people much worse off in the world than you, (having said that i am not belitteling how you are feeling) and don't even think of topping yourself, just think how your family and friends would feel if they walked in and found you DEAD, you are worth so much more than that. You can overcome the way you are feeling, if i did it you can, go and see your gp they CAN help you, just let them, good luck, and i wish you all the best.

Answer 5

You are showing the signs of anorexia so listen to your physcologist. If everyone thinks you are thin then you probably are. There is a reason you are in therapy so follow the guidelines he/she sets out for you to the best that you can. Self esteem or lack of it is a big issue with anorexics so you will have to really work on that.

Work on putting on muscle weight. There are ways of gaining weight without it going to fat. Do some research and talk to doctors or weight trainers on how to achieve that.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Just be happy! You are probably not fat. Try to look at the bright side of every situation and do other things to get your mind off of your weight. Anorexia is when you don't eat at all, when you starve yourself in addition to those feelings that you have expressed. If this is true for you than yes, you could be anorexic. Let your psychologist help you. Everything will be ok.

Answer 7

Well, you didn't state how thin you are, and if you are anorexic, you won't eat hardly anything, I mean if you do, then you work it off with exercise, and anorexics see themselves as fat, looking in a mirror, where others don't see but bones. I was anorexic before you even heard of it, and everyone thought I had cancer or something, because I was too thin for my body size/shape. And I would feel so guilty if I ate, and thought if I didn't weigh under a hundred pounds, I was fat, which I wasn't, I was pure bones, and then one day, I got naked and stood in front of the mirror after everyone saying how bad I looked, and I freaked, I could see every bone in my body literally, and that made me wake up and I eat healthy, take vitamins, and my weight is fine, as long as I don't overindulge...if they think you are you probably are, and this is serious stuff, your heart could explode, hair fall out, internal problems the rest of your life...don't freak out, but, take this seriously and listen to the dr. and the people around you...because that's part of being anorexic you think you are fat, you have a distorted view of yourself, where others see you how you really are...good luck, and stay with the dr. and do what he says...take alot of vitamin/minerals, eat healthy, small portions, drink plenty of water...do this now, before something happens and it's too late...good luck.

Answer 8

come on stop feeling like this eat a little bit at a time like a mouse there are no fat mice start looking in the mirror tell yourself how good you look , please do not do anything stupid and end your life you could make someone very happy one day , you seem such a nice person with real feelings
people like you are like gold, please babe try to eat perhaps if you eat more you will feel better, I have been a fat person all my life always on a diet and would never kill myself and I found a lovely husband.come on babe you can come through this

Answer 9

Hang in there. Weight and confidence issues are so difficult and all consuming. Keep a dialogue open with your psychologist. Sometimes you need an objective voice to force you to take an honest look at yourself. In the meantime, think about all you have to offer to everyone around you, how much your friends and family love you, where your talents lie and what you LOVE to do! Find strength in that and it will sustain you through this tough time and... hopefully help you find that confidence and joy you seem to have misplaced.

Answer 10

Anorexia is when a person starves them self and ends up losing a minimum of 1/3 of their bodyweight.

If you're worried about being overweight, get the help of a trained workout trainer and find a suitable routine to keep you healthy.