My friend has a boyfriend of 9 months, but it's progressed to the point where my friend doesn't want to see him any more. However she has tried breaking up with him but he blackmailed her with suicide and now she's stuck in it because she doesn't want him to go killing himself.
What can she do?
2007-03-27 10:39:19 · 16 answers · asked by Neo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs to tell his parents what he's threatened, and then get on with her single life.
She's not responsible for his behavior, he is. He doesn't care anything about her or he wouldn't threaten to kill himself...he's either seriously mentally ill and needs help, or mean and manipulative and needs to learn he's not always going to get what he wants.
2007-03-27 10:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She can break up with him. His suicide isn't her problem. F*ck him. He's already seen that his "threats" are the way to win her back, so he'll keep doing it to get what he wants. F*ck this baby. Tell him to grow the f*ck up. She's not "stuck" if she doesn't want to be. And if he wanted to kill himself he'd have done it a long time ago.
Tell her to break it off with him and stop all contact. He'll mope around for a few months, but he'll get over it. And if he does kill himself, then he had bigger problems that a girl that didn't like him. It's not her responsibility in life to keep him alive. What is she going to do, stay with him until she's 75?
2007-03-27 17:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's in an abusive relationship. Here are some helpful services that can provide you with her rights, & offer you some better advice than most of us here can:
Family Violence Prevention Fund
383 Rhode Island St. Suite #304
San Francisco, CA 94103-5133
Phone: (415) 252-8900
http://endabuse.org/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 18749
Denver, CO 80218
Phone: 303-839-1852
http://www.ncadv.org/
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE
2007-03-27 17:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let you friend knows that relationship can't be forced. Advise her to find out what went wrong and see if there can be any reconciliation. If all else failed, she will need to move on. She can't based on a suicidal note/thought from preventing to move on in life. Advise her to get her boyfriend to look at things in a different perspective. Enjoy doing things he likes. This would help eases the separation pain.
2007-03-27 17:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is out of your "friend's" hand if he commits suicide. It would only confirm his instibility. Tell your friend to break up with him once and for all. Its not her problem what he decides to do after that. The only thing she might need to worry about is if he is the violent type that might come after her and try to hurt her. If your friend needs to seek outside help on this matter such as family or cop then she should.
2007-03-27 17:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Contesta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her staying in a relationships she doesn't wnt to is completely unfair. She should see a councellor for better advice. Try telling her to gradually see him less, thats how I eventually broke it off with my ex. He'd be with me from 7 am till 11 at night, it drove me insane, so I started telling him I had things to do, we spent less and less time apart. Eventually he will become accustomed to it and then she can break it off.
If he threatens her with suicide, she should contact someone in his family and tell them they're saying that and ask that someone stay with him so they can keep an eye on him. Maybe he'll act a little more mature after that
2007-03-27 17:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he threatens suicide, call the police and they'll take him to the psyche ward for a 72 hour observation. Don't play this game with him. Either he's serious about killing himself (in which case he needs help) or he's not. Most people don't have the guts to call the police- if she doesn't then you know it's a bunch of BS and she's playing this little gamer with him because she likes the feeling.
2007-03-27 17:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you know he's just saying that so she'll stay. she just needs to tell him that he should do whatever he feels like he should do but the relationship is over. she needs to get out of there cause if he's threatning to kill himself think of what he would do to her and then once she's out of there get a protection order on him.she is not responsible for his actions. he is all talk and wont really do it i had a boyfriend once who said the same crap and he's still alive.and we broke up.
2007-03-27 17:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to have someone with her when she tells him its over, so he doesn't try to pull that on her, after she has done what has to be done, to be on the safe side, call his parents and tell them what he said, explain that she is not trying to cause any trouble but she just doesn't want anything bad to happen to him
2007-03-27 17:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, if a person is going to actually commit suicide, it is seriously unlikely that they will tell anyone about it!
That is actually a really pathetic thing to say, does he actually want his girlfriend to stay with him just so that he doesnt kill himself? Tell her to explain that to him. Tell her to ask him does he not deserve better, someone who actually loves him? Just try to get that into his head because it seems a little silly to want a relationship with someone who doesnt want to be with u, but is just with u anyway...
Good luck.
2007-03-27 17:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋