kk..so we been goin out for lil over 4 months and GF was confused at first whether or not she still wanted to be with him...he cheated on her after going out for a year...anyways now she claims she is happy with me, but she still talks to him on msn. that wouldnt be a problem for me except he wanted her back ever since we started going out and he still does. She tells me he talks to her and basically is begging her to go back to him...she was really confused once and i dont want this jackass to get to her head again. Do i have the right to tell her that if she loves me she would block him or stop talking to him???
2007-03-27 10:28:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely. It's not fair that she's stringing you along until she figures out what she wants. It's time for her to make a decision.
2007-03-27 10:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...way way out of your jurisdiction..that choice should be with your girl man..I mean no matter what you say if she wants to talk to him in MSN she can you can't be with her 24/7 if i were you what I am gonna do is instead of wasting my time trying to make myselfy crazy on how I can stop her from chatting with him is I will think of ways so she will stop using MSN altogether..:) like be extra sweet to her..take her out to a special night..go out of town.stay up all night doing sweet stuff..send her flowers..just be extra sweet to show her that you love her and your his man..so no matter what the jackass do she still will be inlove you..my point listen to James Ingram " One hundred ways" here's a the lyrics..
Compliment what she does
Send her roses just because
If it's violins she loves
Let them play
Dedicate her favourite song
And hold her closer all night long
Love her today
Find one hundred ways
Dont forget, there could be
An old lover in her memory
If you need her so much more
Why don't you say?
Maybe she has it in her mind
That she's just wasting her time
Ask her to stay
Find one hundred ways
Being cool won't help you keep a love warm
You'll just blow your only chance
Take the time to open up your heart
That's the secret of romance
Sacrifice if you care
Buy her some moonlight to wear
If it's one more star she wants
Go all the way
In your arms tonight, she'll reflect
That she owes you the sweetest of debts
If she wants to pay
Find one hundred ways
Love her today
Find one hundred ways
2007-03-27 10:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by hypnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Do i have the right to tell her that if she loves me she would block him or stop talking to him??? "
No you don't have the right to force her to stop, and giving her an ultimatim such as stop or I'll leave, or using manipulating language like "if you loved me you'd stop" will just set her off or make her flee. Just like guys, girls want freedom and to feel like they're not controlled. You do those things above, and if she's a strong woman, she'll react. Negatively.
What you DO have the right to do is tell her how you feel, what concerns you have, and what effects you think this has on your relationship. Be rational and caring, and she'll either have a good response (yay) or a bad one (aw) but then you'll know.
2007-03-27 10:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn right! You should make her forget about that scrub any way possible. If you're not big-ballin' right now, then basically use whatever you can to make her stop speaking to him.
"It is only when the back is turned, that the subject is impaled with a rusty blade"
If you say that she is confused, then let her know that once a cheater, always a cheater saying is no joke!
2007-03-27 10:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't stop her from doing what she wants. If you were to tell her to stop, she will probably do the opposite, because she won't want to be controlled. You should sit her down and tell her how her talking to the ex makes you feel. You could ask her to stop and explain why. If she doesn't stop, knowing that it bothers you that badly, then you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
2007-03-27 10:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can say whatever you want, but think about this:
1. If she is steel interested in her ex and you say this to her to things can happend: 1. she will get back with him, or 2. she will stay with you repriming the desire to talk to him.
2. If she really loves you and you do this she can think that is a good reason to stop talking with his ex or she will think that you don't trust her.
give her time.
2007-03-27 10:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by angelablaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definately, if he is trying to get back with her of course u can tell her to stop talking, If they were merely friends saying hi here or there on msn i wouldnt have a problem, but if he is trying to take ur girl she needs to put a stop to it too. She is feeding this too because she talks to him.
2007-03-27 10:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you should tell her it makes you uncomfortable. But it sounds like she still wants him. Otherwise she'd forget he exists. So if you do tell her be prepared that she might go back or even have a secret relationship with him. More than likely though whether you say something or not she will go with him eventually
2007-03-27 10:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable and you think it is a threat to the relationship you have built with her.
You have the right to tell her that you will not put up with it and stand there and watch him mess with her head.
You have the right to ask her to stop talking to him, so she can focus on the relationship she has with you.
If she doesn't stop, dump her. She obviously doesn't know what she wants.
2007-03-27 10:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Thats a hard one. I wouldnt go as far as telling her to block him but I would tell her that if she loves you than she will tell him that she loves only you and to stop trying to get her back.
2007-03-27 10:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by twoxforxtragety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋