I am in a christian college and I thought I had some really good christian friends but then I found out that one in particular was writing rude e-mails behind my back and continually gossiping about me. Even though we are not friends anymore I still hear of him backstabbing me and every other friend he has. He has convinced lots of people not to be my friend and becuase he is so active on this campus and is in alot of Christian groups and he has a Christian band people believe him. Why are people so blinded by him? Is this what a christian is supposed to be like? I thought we were supposed to be like Christ. I know I should not judge but he has done so many things to me and he never has the guts to deal with me to my face it is always behind my back. I feel bad for him cause he is constantly making up reasons to be stressed and he thinks his life is so hard even though he is only taking 2 classes and they are easy. He is a drama queen. He has also continuously lied to me and others.
2007-03-27 10:22:59 · 6 answers · asked by r_u_m_b2003 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So more about this is the fact that even though he wrote the e-mails behind my back and never apologised I am being treated like the bad guy. I havent gotten notes from people telling me not to be judgemental and his friends have called me rude names, even though they dont know my side of the story. No one seems to take into account that he is a minipulative gossip and is constantly questing for attention. I know he is in a christian band and that he is in other groups but he really puts on the act when he is doing stuff like this. Also its just so silly how he gets angry when I walk into a room, he will also sometimes get up and walk out when i walk in. I mean he was the one who wrote bad things and said bad things behind my back, I should be the one behaving like this (if i wasnt christian that is). I mean I havent done anything to him besides ask him to stop writing things behind my back and to say anything he has to say to my face. I would give him the same courtesy.
2007-03-27 10:27:58 · update #1
What is done in darkness will be revealed in the light. The person you speak of has little real understanding of Christ. Like many people he believes the way to get ahead is the way of the "corporate ladder". I know it's hard (my ex husband actually did much the same kind of stuff to me) but concentrate on your own behavior and do what you know God would have you do. In the end the truth will come out without your doing anything. And you will find the consequences for you will be much better than if you tried to make things right. Trust me on this one.
2007-03-27 10:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you mind? Your silence may have been irritating him. Just do not react and pretend you are not bothered by it or like your not even listening. Do the opposite of what he does provided you keep yourself on guard against words that may instigate others to do harm to you. If someone tells you about what he said, reply kindly with " I don't think he can say that, maybe you just misheard him." Definitely the one who sends you the rumor is the spy. So, pretend you are not affected or for sure, I think it is healthy for you to really not be affected.
2007-03-27 10:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, don't be judgemental. Just live the way you are supposed to live, or as my pastor says it, "run YOUR race."
Don't worry about him, God will take care of him in due time. Just live your life according to Christ and you will get your rewards.
Consider Christ: People mocked Him, spat at Him, definitely talked about Him behind His back, and what did He do?
Love, love, love. That's all. It's in the way you treat your neighbor that God looks at.
He doesn't worry much about what someone does to you. It's all about how you respond to the treatment. And when God sees that in spite of everything this person is doing to you, you still show him love, and kindness, and gentleness, patience, God WILL bless you.
God Bless.
2007-03-27 10:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but in this world it seems as though the jerks get all the praise and the nice ones get screwed. Just be careful in who you trust. Even clergy can spread gossip. It just happens.
2007-03-27 10:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome Child of GOD!
You otta get Rick Joyners book, "the Finale Conflict".
Explains it all. Hope this helps!
We are all in a Family, of GOD.
There is a lot of junk (fussing and fighting) that goes on in a family too!
Had a guy come up to me in a meeting (church) of born-agains, first time I had been to that building (church), I didn't know him--he stood there a minute and looked at me and said "sometimes your worst enemy is your bro. (or sis.) in Christ", then he just walked off!
I have had a lot of weird stuff happen to me in the past!
Hope this helps.
Ditto..................
2007-03-27 10:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by maguyver727 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your faith is being tested, forgive him. Jesus said you must forgive, He said nothing about, staying friends with this person. But do not run and hide, let your light shine before men so that you may glorify your Father, who is in heaven.
Do good to then that despite fully use you, and pray for them that hate you. For your Father who is in heaven sees in secret and shall reward you. Do it not for your friend, or your self do it because you love your Father, and you wish to honor and please him.
2007-03-27 10:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋