Get married or follow my dream?

Question

My boyfrinend is fixing to graduate from boot camp, and he is in the Army. He wants to get married when he comes back home, but there is one problem. I want to join the Marines after I finish up my semester of college. Joining the Marines has always been something that I wanted to do. But, I know that if I join the Marines while my boyfriend is in the Army there is a good chance that we will be stationed in different areas. Can someone give me some advice and comments? Should I go ahead and stay in college and work toward my Early Childhood Education Degree and get married to the love of my life, or should I follow my dream and become a Marine?

Answer 1

Follow your dream...seriously, life is too short not to. You can ALWAYS get married, and if he loves you he will wait for you just as you have waited for him. Good luck :-)

And plus, think of this. If you DON'T follow your dream and got married, you will always live knowing that you are not a Marine...what if it was your destiny? What if God made you so psychologically attracted to the Marines because by joining it...you will find your purpose in life?

What if you DO get married...and you're in so much regret that you become bitter? And the marriage fails because of it...where does that leave you? COULD you NOT join the Marines and NOT live in regret at the same time? Would that be possible for you?

I think we're all attracted to the things that will become us...MAKE us...like I said before...our destiny.

I think the biggest question to ask yourself here is would you be okay with living a certain, content mediocore life instead of the possibilty of a GREAT, uncertain one? Would you take the risk? And it is possible to have the best of both?

Whatever your choice is, best of luck :-) :-) :-)

Answer 2

If he gets deployed (ie. to Afganistan) you won't likely be together whether you're in the Marines or not.

I've been on the side where the most wonderful guy was hoping to marry me after boot camp. People go through a lot, have time to think about what's important, and get lonely there. If he truely intends to spend the rest of his life with you, you can marry anytime, no rush.

Now then,
You speak as though the Marines is something you'd like to try...my guess is if you were totally set on making a career in the Marines you be a Marine already. A Marine isn't something you just try, either you cut it or you don't.

If Early Childhood Education isn't your real dream, why are you wasting time pursuing it? You can go to school any point in your life, but who wants to be a 30 something trying to get into the Marines?

Answer 3

There is truly only one thing that you can do that if you don't chose you will regret it for the rest of your life.You have to follow your dream and become a Marine and God bless you for having that dream.Do what you love,follow your dreams and everything else will fall into place.A college education and a life long dream of being a marine,lasts a lifetime.A marriage,well I've never been married and you know what?From the bottom of my heart your not missing anything.Get an education,have your career be self sufficient and when you feel like hanging out with your man do so but it's the wrong time to prioritize a relationship.Trust me there will always be guys that want you,its the beauty of being a woman who knows what she wants.

Answer 4

I say follow your dream....after you get your degree. You'll have more opportunities that way.

Its what i plan to do once i graduate from college in a few years.
I want to join the Marines as well..every since i was in Jr. high.

I plan to go through with it no matter what.
If i find someone i love very much by then and they want to get married, then id go ahead with it too.
Its possible to do both, even if you two are in different branches. I know people who are in the same position and they have worked it out.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

Which loss will you regret more in the future?
As a hopeless romantic, I'd go with the love of your life.

But if you'll regret not becoming a Marine more than not marrying the love of your life then you should become a Marine.

Which is more important to you?
Are you sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
What will happen to your relationship if you choose to enter the Marines?
Will that be the end of it?
These are questions that you need to answer for youself.

Answer 6

If he is the love of your life, you shouldn't have to chose.

I say go and try to be a Marine. Instead of having to chose marriage or Marines, try a long distance relationship. If that works, THEN consider marriage.

I don't understand the rush to get married. It's tough as-is, and settling for something you'll regret later on isn't going to be a happy time.

Answer 7

My husband is a Marine, and I am going to boot in September. We got married first, and then I went in. It is possible to have a relationship in the military, however it isn't easy. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Follow your heart.

Answer 8

I was in a similar situation. I waited until I graduated from college to get married, but after I got married I did go on to get two additional degrees. Waiting to get married was a great choice for me, but you must weigh your pros and cons and make the decision that is best for you

Answer 9

ye your between a rock and a hard place......Im a exjar head.
simper Fi.......thats a hard question. Your love of a life time they dont come along ( ye once in a life time). Your corect you want be stationed in the same area...If you dont join the corp....and get married youll be following him allover were ever the army sends him.....Get your Education....then join the corp......good luck.

Answer 10

Have it both ways. Join the Army and you can be stationed together, under the "Army Married Couples Program." Ask your Army recruiter about it, and joint domicile.