Do you think a woman should be home to raise her children when they are really young or put them in day care?

Answer 1

why have a child if you dont want to raise it

Answer 2

I feel that parent's should do whatever they choose or have to do. I did want to make a comment though. I'm so tired of hearing that daycare is good because the kids socialize. I'm a SAHM and that doesn't mean I'm home all day long. I have joined a local moms group and go to meet ups with them atleast 2-3 days a week and I'll also go to my sisters house who has 4 kids. My son gets enough socializing from that. I have to say it is hard to stay home but you have to find things to do that will make you happy. I have friends that put their kids in daycare and wish they could stay home and one is actually working on having their own buisiness so she can stay home because daycare costs are expensive. She pays $1100 dollars a month for 3 children. I couldn't imagine that. Plus I couldn't imagine someone else raising my child. My friend just said the other day she spends more time with her co-workers then her own children. I really feel that children are being put in daycare way too young,infants need to be with their mother because that's a critical age in their lives. Bottom line children need their mothers for times of comfort not a stranger Well a stranger in the beginning until they become familiar. All parent's need time away from their children but working full time 5 days a week is too much but yet I understand that people have to do it. I surely won't put anyone down but this is just my feelings about it.

Answer 3

I think that's up to the parents. I am lucky enough to be in a financially situation where I can stay home w my child. However with my first child i CHOSE to work and I missed so much of her growing up because of it. Some couples or parents have no choice to work or not either way is not more correct then the other. However I don't like the thought of someone else raising my son and that is what would be happening if he was in day car 9 hours a day 5 days a week.

Answer 4

The situation is totally unique for each mom or dad. I stayed home for 4 years, but I am a teacher and I didn't have to worry much about getting a job when I returned to work. If someone has a career that they can not take much time off or else lose their position, they may just want to take the standard 6 weeks-3 months. If a mom or dad is paying most of the bills, staying home isn't an option.

I think it was nice to stay home, but it was an option for myself. I also had 3 kids in 4 years so I stayed pregnant while I was home...lol.

Answer 5

To me its a personal choice, if a family is financially able for the mother to stay home and raise her children during the first years of life and if she wants to then she should, If she doesn't or cannot afford to then daycare is about her only option.
I am a stay at home mom and i have up most respect for working mothers i don't see how they get everything done in one day and still have time for family! Kids turn out fine either way!

Answer 6

This is not an easy question, even though I am a mom of 2 kids.

The nurturing mother in me wants to say "home with the kids for as long as possible" - although mine were not because I work full-time. But my own kids' kindergarten teachers both told me how they can always tell the kids who were in daycare versus the kids who were not. They say the daycare kids are always better socialized, and are usually ahead of the others in all areas of learning. Now maybe that just means we're lucky to have good childcare centers where I live, or maybe it's a sad commentary on some (not all!) women who stay home with their kids, I'm not sure. But it's something to think about.

Having said all that, I think staying home with them for the first few years is good, IF you are going to involve them in educational activities at the appropriate age. And even if you are, they still need to start some kind of preschool, even just part-time, around age 3. It goes back to the socialization thing the teachers mentioned, and helps foster the independence they will need when they go to kindergarten.

Answer 7

I have 3 boys 6,4,3 and have worked full time since they were all born. I quit last minth and am doing uni 2 days a week and look after them three days and am loving it. I found when my baby turned 3 i realised that i barely seen him i dropped him off to his other mother (day carer) at 7 and picked him up at 6-630. it is a long day for them and they become tired and sometimes dont want you. But you can still work sometimes or casual part time, just make it work for you. If you cant find a job that s flexible so you can spend time watching them grow then dont do it. I think its important for their growth. Because i wasn't able to read to my kids (too tired at the end of a working day and need to do house work ect) my eldest son is struggling at school. Id stay home if i could go back in time.

Answer 8

I think its a personal choice, for each family and for each mother.

Some stay at home mothers take their kids for granted and never play with them, other stay at home moms are taking their kids out at activities and zoos and doing art projects constantly. Some working moms don't have any energy left for their kids after a day of work, others focus more on their kids when they are home, since they get so little time with them. For some moms, having something for themselves leaves them feeling more fulfilled than being home, while others don't need something else, and feel fullfilled raising the next generation.

Answer 9

This is a very touch subject for all. I had so choice I had to go back to wok because I had to raise my son. I was lucky for the first year my sister took good care of my son for me. I didn't have anything to worry about. Went my sonwas about a year old I decieded to leave my job making good money for a lesser paying job to be with my son. I only my son in day care because Iwanted him to be around other kids. I think I did the best job for my child i could have done. He is a well rounded child and I love that. He loves going to school and I think that is because I expose him to that at an early age. I wouldn't do anything differnet.

Answer 10

I think if the woman has a choice then she should stay at home if she wants. I believe that working part time should be good enough for a mom that wants to work. Daycare is good for kids to develop socially but I also think that kids don't get enough attention in daycare sometimes. Some women want to stay home and some want to go to work. I plan on staying home until I can't stand it anymore, then I will go to work part time.

Answer 11

For The First Year At Least But My Wife is an aducator in a day care
and they have kids 18 months old
and thrust me they learn ALOT

kids in professionnal day-cares are proven to be smarter and to act better then kids who were raised at home

thrust me those people study 4 5 years to teach and know everything about kids