I feel like i'm a burden in my boyfriends' life. Heres a quick run down on the situation...
i see him occasionally during the day, and for a couple minutes every afternoon and then kiss him goodbye. i try to spend time with him at least once during the week and once on the weekend and i call him every night and talk to him. ok now there seems to be a problem with that to him...it's gotten to the point where everytime i call him or we make plans to hang out, he has plans with friends. i know that i have to share him with his friends, but he's with his friends everyday literally, and he spends two hours everyday to lift and be by himself so he has plenty time for himself and friends so y am i being pushed away for more time? what it's come down to is that i will talk to him for that couple minutes and kiss him goodbye and don't bug him until about 10 o'clock and then whenever he wants to get off the phone, i let him and not beg for him to talk a lil longer. and dont bug him to hang out?
2007-03-27 10:03:43 · 7 answers · asked by lowesjj48gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your doing fine! just keep doing what your doing
2007-03-27 10:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by kkamdog 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. It actually sounds like you really want to spend time with him. He probably knows this and takes it for granted. I imagine either a) he's getting tired of being bugged; or b) he's taking advantage of your feelings.
If it's a) then your relationship is on a steep downward slope and he's probably very irritated and wouldn't mind spending some time away from you altogether.
If it's b) then he feels that he has all the control in the relationship which is not good so cut him free. He'll learn to appreciate what he had when he no longer has it - even if only for a little while. Make him sweat.
2007-03-27 17:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Will H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are the one that calls him every night I think you should back off. A guy does not like to be persued all the time. Give him a chance to act like a man. When you talk to him and get the feeling you are bugging him, you probably are.
2007-03-27 17:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems like you are doing all the work in the relationship. You try to spend time with him....you call him.... If he is anxious to be with you and talk with you he has to be allowed to show it. Hang out with your friends, take yourself out, don't sit and wait until he has time for you. If you know someone is always going to be available to you no matter the time, then you don't make much of an effort to spend time with them. Have some fun of your own. Live for yourself not for his attention.
2007-03-27 17:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by ladyc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how u feel not us.
Tell him u r both meant to be in a relationship here not friends who say hi and bye tell him u know u have to share him with others but there is sharing then there is never seen him he should be with u none stop but making time with his friends and family too.
2007-03-27 17:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl07 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I'm understanding this right..it sounds like you are trying to fit in his schedule. I don't know how I would like that...but if it works for you then I guess it's okay
2007-03-27 17:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Solution: stop calling him cold turkey. Show HIM how it feels to be merely an "afterthought"
2007-03-27 17:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by C a r i s s a 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋