What do I do about my ex?? I really need advice! Any help would be greatly appreciatted!?

Question

Ok, to try to make this short. My ex and I were together around 3 years. We had some really good times and really bad times together. We broke up a little over a year ago and now he is with another girl. We still talk all the time and see each other, but if you saw us out you would think we were a couple. He recently has gotten more "friendly" when we are out. He holds my hand, puts his arms around me and acts like I am his girlfriend still. He never goes out with her in public, just alone or with me. The last time we went out we spent hours together and he was all over me and Im just so confused. We have not slept together since the breakup just flirt heavily. Why is he even with her if he keeps acting that way with me? I still love him and can't get over it. It has been a year and it still won't go away. I know he is bad for me...What do I do?

Answer 1

That's pretty bad, don't you think? He's not being a very good boyfriend to his official girlfriend and meanwhile he's using you for fun and games. Why don't *you* go away, rather than hoping he will? You can't get over someone you're letting get his hands all over you and mess with your head.

Answer 2

What would happen if you were still his girlfriend and he was doing all this behind your back? Ouch!! You would be so hurt . Show some respect to the relationship he is in. Even if he isn't. His behavior is not ok, and the fact that he is willing to disrespect his current girlfriend, should be enough of a turn off to you. You deserve better than that. If he loves you and it was meant he would make things right.

Answer 3

You need space from him. You are convenient. I can understand that you still care for him, but unless you spend a considerable amount of time away from him you will never get over him. Also you have to be responsible for your own actions, it is not right to let him make advances towards you if he is involved with someone else. That tells him that you will settle for being second best. You broke up for a reason, take some time for you and clear your head.

Answer 4

first! if you know that he is bad for you get rid of him!! like Now!!! He has someone else you need to let him go, that is not right!! you have been there done that and you need to just let him go don't call don't write don't do anything with him... if he can't be with just you then you don't need him sorry but really look at what you are!! you'r just a booty call to him he is playing you and you are in for a real hard time if you let him keep it up. Please for all the woman around the world stop seeing him it's not cool!!! good luck

Answer 5

He totally got you eating from the palm of his hands girl. He still wants you to be around....just in case. Breakin up means one thing....NOT TO SEE EACH OTHER ANYMORE OR EVEN HOLD HANDS OR GOIN OUT ALONE TOGETHER. IF IT WAS WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS HANGIN OUT,MAYBE BUT NOT ALONE. ASK HIM THIS, WHY DOES HE STILL WANT YOU AROUND? HE FOUND SOMEONE ELSE AND SO SHOULD YOU AND SEE HOW HE FEELS ABOUT THAT. ONE THING'S FOR SURE, YOU NEED TO GET OVER HIM COZ YOU'RE BEING PLAYED LIKE A TOY. HE'S THERE WHEN HE WANTS TO, BUT IS HE THERE WHEN YOU WANT HIM TO?MOVE ON GIRL.

Answer 6

y do u say he's bad for u? it all depends on y u broke up in the 1st place, mayb u should have a talk with him about his intentions and even though u still like him so much, don't let him know unless his intentions are good, wat is it that u want? wat will ultimately make u happy? technically he's cheating on his girl and using u 2 help him! ur both flirting so mayb he's just playing along with u, u guys have past the flirting stage long time ago, talk it over and be sure b4 u lead urself in a trap and get hurt.

Answer 7

Tell him NO. Do not allow him to be flirty. He is flirty because it is ok to be flirty, because you are receptive to it. I'm sure he dose still have some feelings for you, but he is in a relationship, and if you were to get together, you would be back where you were, you broke up for a reason.

If he can flirt with you while with another, he would flirt with others while with you, you need to move on.

I would suggest greatly reducing contact with him, and get your self out and mingling w/ singles.

Answer 8

Asked him on what does he really wants in you,why is he acting the way he is not supposed to. remind him that you two we're just friends now,since he already have his new gf. What does he thinks of you anyway? And maybe you have to ask yourself either, is it ok that he is doin that to you. What do u really want in him....? Yes you still love him but he is already with somebodyelse. Will it be ok with u to be the other woman,ifever.
Did u ever think and consider his new gf feelings once she will find this out?

Answer 9

In a nutshell, your ex is having his cake and eating it. If you still love him then you have to ask him if he wants to get back with you, if his answer is no then you are doing yourself no favours by continuing to see him. You obviuously cannot be just friends and his bahaviour is not fair on you as he knows you still love him and this is holding you back.

Are you seeing someone else too?

How would you feel if your boyfriend still went out with his ex?

I think he doesnt want you but he wants to make sure no one else has you either.

Cake and eating it!!!

Answer 10

If he is with somebody else regardless of who he spends the most time with he is still with someone else. Have you ever thought that their was a reason you all broke up. Let it Burn it's over and if he wasn't with someone I would say try one more time, but that's not the case. You should be respectful of the other girls feelings.