been with a girl four years since 14 were now 18 we had a kid i paid for everything after the kids born and ive taken care of her for two weeks this girl says the kid might not be mine for 6 months now i have been fighting to get a paternity test cant get them to go what do i do consult an attorney?
2007-03-27 09:49:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I work at an Attorneys office, and i suggest you find a well known family law attorney go in and meet with them and see what they can go about getting the ball rolling. They can set up orders ordering it be done instead of you just waiting around. Going with an attorney is always a great idea because then they take care of most of it for you. But for heavens sake, get someone to look into this for you! What a great guy and for a girl to just use you like that. Dont take it! You may love the child and thats great! But for you, and the baby you need to know who the real father is.
2007-03-27 09:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by roxygurl1307 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both 18 now, then getting your parents/families involved will not help the situation as you are considered adults in the eyes of the law. I give you credit for being a young man forced into adulthood early by the mistakes you made, and the fact that you have not only taken care of the girl you believe you fathered a child with but want to be part of the childs life. This is something that we do not always see in todays sociaty. Unfortunatly this situation could get messy. Do you love her? Can you forgive her for cheating on you? Do you want to stay with her? If you answered yes to all of these questions and you plan on being with her, does the paternity of the child really matter? If you are going to stay togeather, then you will be this childs father reguardless of who the paternal father is. If you are not planning on staying with her, then your only option will be to get legal help. If for nothing else, you should know who the father of the child is because his family may have medical issues that run in the family and it would be important to know about them for the childs future. If you do go with a lawyer who will help you get the paternity test the girl may resent you and make things difficult for you, but this may be something you will have to deal with. Please keep in mind that its the childs best inerest that should be considered not your own. Good luck.
2007-03-27 17:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u got doubts and she is against the test,i dont think he is yours,u can file a case for paternity testing through an attorney,will cost u ,but she will be obligated to let the kid take it,and define if u r the biological parent or not
2007-03-27 16:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop paiding for everything and stop contact with her and watch her start calling and saying that the kid is yours. At that point then make her go and have a dna test. Because most woman with kids wants money. And if the kid not yours dump her and learn a lesson and always use protection so this does happen again.
2007-03-27 16:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two words for you ... Maury Povich.
Plus you get a free trip to New York.
2007-03-27 16:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by tigerdave2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
involve her parents and yours. They would want the real father to be helping with the kid
2007-03-27 16:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to take her to court. It's not fair, but you will have to pay for the test.
2007-03-27 16:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but first try to convince them once more. (so you can say that you've asked them multiply times) then talk to a lawyer. good luck!
2007-03-27 16:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to ... depends on how bad you need to know ... or how much she is fighting to keep you from getting it
2007-03-27 16:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by giggle ♥ laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be polite with her and make everything under control.
2007-03-27 16:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by NR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋