I'm dating a guy thats in the Army, I care about him deeply. It's hard not being able to see him as much as I'd like, and it's only going to get worse at the end of the year when he goes back to Iraq for a year. I was just wondering how the other military girlfriends/wives get through the long seperation.
2007-03-27 09:47:08 · 5 answers · asked by puckbabeald 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess I just want any little tips or tricks that work for you.
2007-03-28 06:24:40 · update #1
Just try to carry on with your regular life as hard as it may be. There are stages the ones left behind tend to go through during a deployment. At first it's, of course, extremely difficult, but as time goes you create new routines and you learn to deal with it. One thing that has helped me so far during this current deployment is going out everyday. Just by myself. I'll go for a drive even just for coffee and it makes the day feel like it's going by a little faster.
Other things include reading articles and books (non-fiction) about war and army life so I can better understand what it's like for him. Same with watching documentaries...but this may not be for everyone. I'm more of the involved type and some people rather not know. And talk to your friends! Complain and cry (just not to him) and brag about how great he is, it helps.
As it's been said, commitment and strength play a huge roll, too.
Below is a link I found a few months ago that explains the emotional cycles for a deployment.
2007-03-29 06:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment -- You have to be committed to the relationship -- both of you.
Courage -- Sometimes you have to be brave when you don't really feel up to it.
Resourceful -- Sometimes you have to reach deep into yourself to handle situations that you didn't think you could handle.
Supportive -- It is not simple enough to say "I support the troops, but not the mission." Any military person worth their salt will tell you that the Troops ARE the MISSION! G.I. - Government Issue -- There are things that they are required to do (and by extension, friends/family who are supportive) that is not required of civilians.
For example, Navy & Marine Corps (probably all branches) are required to wear seatbelts! It is not optional, it is mandatory! That is just a small example. They can get in trouble if someone else in the vehicle is not buckled up!
Finally, if you don't think you can hack it, you need to let him know well before he is deployed (weeks or better yet months). He does not need you complaining, or you dumping him while he is placing his life on the line!!!
2007-03-27 16:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by texaskelt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in and it is important to have friends and family that you can go and visit when times are rough and you miss him alot.
2007-03-27 16:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww I am sorry well.......wish him luck and maybe you can kiss a piece of Papper and then give it to him but you have 2 have lipstick on when you kiss it then send it to him it is a cute way of saying I love you
2007-03-27 16:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by ferretgirl226 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a toy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 16:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by holykrikey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋