Do's and Dont's on the First Date?

Question

I am going on a date with this girl for the first time and we are going to see a movie and then go out for coffee afterwards. What I want to know is what should I talk about, what should I wear, ie what should I do to make the date go well. Please help me out with this. I enjoy my friendship with this girl and want it to be something more than just that.

Answer 1

I.The look
1.Dress casual but not junky.
a.Wear a striped button up shirt
b.nice stone washed jeans
c.docs
2.Good hair but not stiff.
a.Use light gel or moose (not alot!)
b.don't make it messy but not perfect ,dry and let it fall.
3.clean face
a.clean it with nice face wash (scented)
b.shave (Do Not Dry Shave!!)
c.Put lotion on face.(try baby lotion if you have it ,It smells sweet .)
4.Smell good
a.not strong just when she touches you she can smell it )
b.Try colors or curve cologne.(they sell curve at walmart or other stores.)
c.use nice smelling Deo ! Try a gel kind !
I.The talk.
1.tell her she looks good.
a.DO NOT REPEAT RIGHT AFTER !
2.ask her what kind of stuff she likes.
3.Be your self buddy!
4.Manners
a. don't stuff your face
b.make sure your face is clean after you
eat.
c.open doors and push and pull chairs in and out for her.
5.The moves
a.reach for popcorn at the same time and gently smile and hold her hand.
b.If she gets scared hold her hand .
c.when holding hands stroke fingers and play w/ her hands.
d.if she has something on her face lick/kiss it off.(its hot!!!TURN ON!)
e.If she doesn't like the moves don't rush into it.

Extras
Be your self and if something feels right do it!

Answer 2

Andy,
As a fellow man I know how this first date, especially with a female who is a friend, can go. Since you didn't mention details of how long you have been friends, I will assume it has been for awhile.
To answer your first question on what to wear on this date, I would recommend a nice pair of jeans, a collard shirt, a belt and the right pair of shoes to match the belt.
You mentioned you wanted to take her to a movie. I would suggest that you cancel that idea. What can make a first date awkward is having to sit next to each other and you cant talk. Women in general have a lot to say, and so do you, so give her an opportunity to talk. Don't just sit there and listen. Be sure to really 'hear' what she has to say and respond to her comments. But back to the movie, I would suggest bowling or an environment were conversation can be made.
If you really want to make the date go well take her to a place that first of all will make you feel comfortable, and that is appropriate for a female guest. If you are feeling good about yourself, where your at, and the event you have scheduled, you should be a hit.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Here are the Louie's rules of the do's and don't on your first date. It worked for me and it could work for you and whoever else cares enough to do this with supple grace, finesse and sophistication. No drugs or alcohol. When you talk, don't talk, communicate, remember dialog, and no kissing, show patience and remember, dude, if you want this to work out for you and this young lady, do not question a thing you are uncertain about, wait, and do not hog the conversation, and when you say anything say things that you know for certain are cool enough for a date setting. If you are using a vehicle, drive safely. And when you dress you dress formal lest you are going out to some giant special event, then, if that be the case, you'd best do some research. Ask her a couple of times if everything is okay and if you can get her anything, you know, like water, food, a magazine or newspaper or a new cell phone with all latest built in features and mechanical characters. If and only if you are willing to spend money. Good luck, and treat her like a young lady, and remember, there isn't nothing like the real thing which in this case is something you and you alone can establish into something meaningful and worthwhile if you take the initiative. The rest is up to you dude and good luck!

Answer 4

If you have been friends for awhile then go as...yourself. That's what she likes about you.

If you haven't been friends for that long then go as...yourself. Wear something decent - not too casual. I don't know how old you are but pull your pants up. It may be a fashionable thing to do but having your waistband around your knees is definitely not a good first impression at something as serious as a 1st date. Imagine if you have to run or something or they fall down around you ankles. Great first impression. Dress to impress and talk to her naturally. Women can see right through B.S. So don't kiss a$$.

Be interested in her. Ask her the usual - likes and dislikes. Talk about things you both have in common and it should flow naturally. If there is nothing in commong then be a bit more daring without being aggressive. Ask her what she looks for in a guy. That sort of thing. Probe but don't get invasive.

Remember, it's not all about you so let her ask you questions about you. If the conversation is all one-sided then it's going to get boring for the other side. Open the door for her but let her pull out her own chair if you can't do it without looking like you practiced it and are anticipating having to do it.

Oh, take a shower and put on some cologne or spray.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Do you know this girl pretty well already? If you do, don't go too fast. Try warming up to her . Make her laugh, compliment her, be a gentleman. Maybe cuddle with her during the movie, if she accepts or shows some signs that it's okay, like if she trys moving closer to you, or holds your hand, and she seems really happy then she will probably enjoy cuddling. When you go out for coffee, talk about the movie some and what she though of it. Ask her questions about her personal life, if you don't already know her well.

Answer 6

Wow I am impressed with you!!!!!! What a great and decent question... I would dress casual for movie and coffee.... Jeans and a nice shirt would be fine...Be comfortable... You will feel more relaxed if you do......Just respect her as your friend and you should be fine.......I don't know how old you are but is is safe to talk about what is it that she likes to do for fun...hobby's, any fun or interesting vacations has she taken, school or maybe even work if she enjoys what she does, her family.....Think about what you would like to know about her that interests you...whats her favorite things do you like this or that...does she like pets and does she have any.....Remember this fact... Girls are known to talk a lot more than guys do so she most likely may be doing much more talking then you unless she is real shy......At the end of the evening nothing more than a good night hug is aways warm and reassuring of a nice time you had and that you like her.........Relax and enjoy each others company so you can have fun!!!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

well
dos: if your allready great friends, just act like a raguler hangout night, but put way more pastion in it, if she's really havin a great time, and you can see that then kiss her(at the right time tho-). buy her the movie ticket, and the coffee, and ant thing else her wants even if she say no!!!! tell her how pretty she, and tell her that you love being closer to her, and that she just makes you smile all the time...they love it*

don'ts: don't constolly ask her if she havin a good time!
:and don't ask her if you can hold her hand just do it
:if thersw a girl there that you knoe don't go over and say hi
she may not show it but she doesn't like it...

keep all that in mind and u'll b in the right please=)

well good luck* and don't worry just be youer self*

Answer 9

It's just the movies, dress casual but clean. Jeans are fine.

No alcohol. No drugs. No driving aggressively.

Talk about yourself, talk about her, ask her about your common interests. Always try to listen more to your date, and avoid dominating the conversation.

If you're already friends, don't worry so much. Tell her right up front that you're nervous, she might appreciate the honesty and it will help break the ice. It's not like she won't notice anyway!

Answer 10

do's

be yourself
be nice
dress nicely
make her laugh
pay for her ticket and coffee
be a gentlemen ie open the door for her
take her home
pay attention to her

Don'ts

Lie
brag about yourself
be cocky
pick your nose
fart
burp
show bad manners
force the conversation
force the chemistry
try too hard
talk about sex


gd luck!!!