A woman puts on a dress and asks does this make me look fat? Do you say yes it does if that's the truth. Or do you lie and say you look fine? That's just an example. My motto is if you ask me I'm going to tell you the truth.
2007-03-27 09:41:36 · 36 answers · asked by mechelle68 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well I guess you have to ask yourself, do you want to be told the complete truth, all the time, everyday, regardless of how you are feeling or any other circumstances that may come into play? Because if you choose to behave a certain way towards people, expect the same back.
2007-03-27 09:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's little things like that, you can a lie a little bit, but if it's bigger, and it would save them the embarrassment if someone said something rude about like their hair or something, then you should tell the truth. If it's going to be something important, don't lie, but if it's small details, it's okay to lie once in a while. If you do tell the truth, you should say it nicely, and make sure they can handle it first. Also, they shouldn't ask if there's going to be a "wrong" answer. If they ask, that means they want to know.
2007-03-27 09:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by hanalulu2☺♥☻ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person and the situation. I can be completely honest with a lot of my friends but some people I don't know to well, I stretch the truth a little bit not to hurt there feelings. If a dress made someone look fat, you could tell them that they don't look fat but that the style or the color isn't a good choice.
2007-03-27 09:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This question is deeper than it appears...Its about more than truth, we're delving into perceived reality and human relations here. There's nothing WRONG with speaking your mind (The Truth, as YOU perceive it,) but just because its not wrong doesn't make it RIGHT either... If you want to be "honest" (and usually be thought crude as well,) that's fine, but language is incapable of real truth, its an art form, a symbolic representation, your "honest" words may not convey your feelings. So say "Yeah, FAT. Like... Dick Cheney fat." If you want to settle for so called "literal" truth, or you could try, "No, (the jelly rolls hanging over your hips are responsible for THAT,) but you could do better, how about the blue one with the stitching on the shoulders?" (Uh..parentheses unspoken of course...)
2007-03-27 10:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one's a no-brainer. You absolutely tell the truth, but as a kind and compassionate soul, you phrase it in such a way that will not cause the asker hurt. You can say that perhaps that style or colour is not suitable for her. She should emphasize her good features, be they breasts or legs or butt, and maybe this dress doesn't do that as well as it could. Flat out telling anyone that they look fat is simply unkind. To disguise it as an excercise in 'truth-telling' is disingenuous, and borders on passive aggresive behaviour. Would you rather be 'right', or a friend??
2007-03-27 09:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone asks, "Does this make me look fat", they are simply telling you, "I think this shows how fat I am". The question is a way of expressing self-doubt. They think they look fat, and they are hoping your opinion of them will be better than their own. I never play this game. Clothes don't make you look fat. Being fat makes you look fat. The polite, and truthful way of answering the question is, "Of course not", leaving out the reasoning.
If you were blunt, and callous, you would answer, "Everything you wear makes you look fat, because you are fat. Some clothes just hide it better". Since this is unacceptable and hurtful, we are constantly trying to find ways of answering a question without lying. It is not necessary to lie, but it is also not necessary to give more information than is needed or wanted.
2007-03-27 09:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always be honest, but you have to remember to be polite in how you deliver the truth. When people use "speaking their mind" as an excuse to be rude...I think that is wrong.
If my friend asked me if a certain dress made her look fat... an honest but polite answer would be, "It's not the most flattering, I really like the [green] one though."
2007-03-27 09:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by robin s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always tell the truth - Just sugar-coat it when necessary. If a friend asks me if they look fat in a dress that they obviously do... I would say something to the effect of "That style of dress does not compliment you legs" (Or other misc. body part). Let's the person know the dress doesn't look good but not because they are flawed, but because the dress is.
2007-03-27 09:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best to be honest, but not brutelly so. You need to use tact. Be diplomatic; for instance instead of saying that dress makes you look fat make suggestions in such ways as, that dress is ugly, yet, never use the word but in this case, I was thinking ... then get her a dress with the proper style fit for her body type. Always back up what you say with an alternative.
2007-03-27 09:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've found out that if you speak what's on your mind you won't have stomach problems. It's better to tell the truth anyway than tell a lie, if people don't want to hear the truth they shouldn't ask for it.
2007-03-28 02:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Gert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋