why are men rubbish when it comes to conversation ?

Question

i know i might be a little paranoid but why is it that men seem to make me doubt that they even like me!
i mean i've been seeing someone but if he doesn't say hi to me or speak to me for a while, i often feel like i have done something wrong or that he hates me. Apart of me knows this is silly as if he didn't like me he wouldn't have asked me out or keep on talking to me. we have even booked to see a show together in may. but why do i doubt myself? sometimes i even ask myself why does he even bother with me i'm nothing special. i also hate it when i try to show some affection like xxxs at the end of a convo and he doesn't do the same he says something like c ya later luv or something like that. i once once got xxs from him but that was it maybe i'm reading too much into this but its nice when they show some affection back it stops me doubting so much. are all men like this??? Had the same problem?

Answer 1

to be honest he sounds like a boring drip,i think u would be better off with someone more out going and a good sense of humor who will make u laugh and give u some confidence.

Answer 2

You answered the question yourself, at least that is how a man would see it.
You ask a simple easy to answer concise question, then bang on explaining it in great length, not missing any possible tangent to digress from the subject matter, and by the time the explanation of the question is finished he is baffled, men take the little explanation as a cue in which direction they are supposed to go in the conversation as a sort of hint.
We want to hold a nice lengthy conversation, learn about your interests and thoughts. Not have a blazing row which could ruin everything.
Also personally and I know alot of people the same, guys do not understand girls, we don`t understand how to express words in a way that cannot be misunderstood by a women who analyzes every possible meaning of every word in every sentence, so we have a safe guard, when we don`t completely understand a girl, we rely on facial expressions, body language and eyes.
It avoids such examples as : too clingy, too full on, not serious, fear of commitment, the list is quite extensive.
Needless to say we are simple, and it shows, we prefer one to one conversation without lots of distractions,
We are not rubbish at conversations, we are rubbish at gosssiping, well most are.

Answer 3

Men and women communicate differently. It's been a problem since day one. Males are much better at one-on-one in person interaction (usually!) than anything text or on the phone. Whereas women, we can chatter for hours on the phone and text up a million miles a minute.

Don't let the differences make you insecure. Just try spending more face-to-face time, so you have something more concrete to judge by than just xxxxx's on a screen!

Answer 4

Some young men or boys would rather protect there ignorant, foolish, badboy image than to express there vulnerable side. Though not unatural, it is acknowledged that it can be frustrating for a girl to mentally explore this type of male with a satisfactory outcome.

I suppose that we can only hope that through lives many challenges, experiences, successes and failures there lies the beginning of the 'conversation'

Answer 5

nah dats not normal - he is keepin his cards close to his chest and won't commit!
play a little game of hard to get - start doing what he does!
In his mind he thinks he has you anyway and he doesn't have do anything - make him work for you! If he doesn't then you know were you are at and can move on!

Answer 6

It's just the way they are i'm afraid. Leaves you feeling cold at times. They seem to have different emotions from us. Most of them can only talk about football, their mates, the pub, or work. How boring. Yawn.......

Answer 7

The reason that guys don't say much to girls is that girls can be pretty intimidating. On the inside all we really want to do is have a decent conversation with you girls and get to know you better.

Answer 8

if he made plans for may i dont think you have much to worry about and it seems like you need more self esteem do something for yourself to make yourself feel better about yourself look in a mirror and say three things that are good about your maybe get a new hair cut or go shopping. you have to make yourself feel better about yourself. feel confident. that is one of the most imortant things ever!!!!!! ur bf is fine i dont think you have anything to worry about it seems like he really cares about you

Answer 9

men think from their trousers so words take time to come out of their mouths...you just have to be patient...its a universal issue & the only cure is love.

Answer 10

I think that you are rubish choosing men to relate with... this is why people actually choose girl, to avoid these kind of things...