someone who i fell in love with just cut me off like a bad habit & now he has been involved with several females. he hurt me and didnt show any remorse. it feels so hard to accept that he doesnt want me. i have told him how i feel. i told him dont call me but he still does and we may share a baby girl together. need advice
2007-03-27 09:35:14 · 11 answers · asked by sunkist39204 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Then your man is heartless. Not us!
2007-03-27 09:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Shark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arent u in the wrong section?
anyways
i think you need to rely completely on urself
as hard as it is to admit to urself u dont need him though it may seem that way now do u think 10 yrs down the road he will still be on ur mind or is he even willing to share a life with u and your child if he was a man he would step up and that is what u need im sorry honey u already know what u should do its just the matter if rather u will do it or not
besides do want that man as a father for ur daughter he is not a real great role model think of it this way...
do what is best for ur daughter she will be ur daughter forever ur b/f or whatever will obviously not be there for you im sorry i know it is a harsh reality but it is the truth (ps: i hope that u are financially stable)
2007-03-27 16:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by noori_unisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Falling" in love is an act of passivity and helplessness. Emotionally mature people do not "fall" in love; they are pro-active rather than reactive, and choose to give love. Read Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving".
Fromm says love is a creative act rather than an emotion. "Falling" in love is evidence that you are missing the true nature of real love. Authentic loving involves (1) care, (2) responsibility and (3) knowledge.
As Malvina Reynolds sings,
Love is like a magic penny.
Hold onto it and you won't have any.
Lend it, spend it, you'll have so many,
They'll roll all over the floor.
Love is something when you give it away,
You end up having more.
When you love one person that does not mean you cut off your love for others. Loving one person does not mean loving ONLY one person. Stable sane people build a network of loving relationships with others.
Possessiveness is a sign of emotional immaturity. Far better to love many people and be loved by many people, while being owned by nobody but yourself.
If you do not wholly own yourself, you cannot truly love another person. Read Ayn Rand's novel, "Atlas Shrugged."
2007-03-27 16:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by fra59e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't speak to him- if he calls don't answer- if the baby is his talk to a lawyer about getting child support- Don't let him keep you in this maybe he'll come back phase because if he can just drop you like that then he's never going to be the man you want him to be
2007-03-27 16:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it is men like that that give the good ones a bad rep. We aren't all like that, my advice is to find a new man and forget about him, he's a pathetic excuse for a man.
I understand we all move on with our lives but there are ways of doing it and with the responsibility for an infant it is lower than low. My personal feeling is ensure you get your child support from him and move on and get yourself a man who will love you and your child, good luck!
2007-03-27 16:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by John D. Holley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are describing one man, not men in general. You might want to examine why this particular man is heartless, and not issue blanket condemnations.
2007-03-27 16:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorve the scum bag. Get some good friends and possibly a therapist to get over the scumbag.
2007-03-27 16:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but its not just men who are heartless the same thing happens to men every day. I'm sorry it happened to you but don't single everyone out. P.S. i'm sorry this happened to you.
2007-03-27 16:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by luvv2rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him,,,you need someone who cares about you and can share a better life.
LH
2007-03-27 16:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you're asking this in religion and spirituality because.....
2007-03-27 16:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋