So today I was sitting down awaiting for my lecture to start. Down the hall, a girl was walking with a lot of stuff in her arms and had headphones on. As you might expect, she dropped all her stuff. She bend over to start picking the stuff up. However, her blue underwear was showing, and unfortunately didn't cover her butt up, so she was sporting about an inch of crack.
At first I just ignored, figuring she would feel a breeze and pull her pants up. A minute later, some kids are snickering as they walk back her, pointing at her butt crack. One kid even tried to put a pencil down her butt, but saw me and stopped.
It occured to me that I didn't know what to say to her (besides, it seemed a bit awkward to tell someone their butt is showing).
The conflict resolved itself when a guy slipped a coin down her underwear. She felt something cold, stood up with her face red, looked around, dug out the coin and threw it. Then pull her pants and underwear up.
What should I have said/done?
2007-03-27 09:29:59 · 16 answers · asked by Katie F 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Walk up to, help to pick up her things, and whisper quietly, "your pants are falling..I just thought you might want to know" with a smile. Anytime you have to tell someone something like that, just put your hand softly on their shoulder, and whisper with a polite smile. Ive done this many times with the toilet paper to shoe, shirt unbuttoned, food in teeth... just make sure you're quiet about it and smile..
2007-03-27 09:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by robin s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have told her who put the coin down there, and had them busted for sexual harassment, or at least a good slap across the face. Lots of people show butt crack when they bend over. But it's nobody's place to do anything, say anything, or most of all put things in there without the permission of the butt's owner.
2007-03-27 09:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quietly go up to her and tell her that her pants aren't covering everything back there. Most young ladies these days knowingly wear pants that reveal their underwear, crack, etc. It might not have bothered her that she was exposed, but that the guy dropped a coin down her pants.
2007-03-27 09:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by kenrayf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should have just taken her gently aside from the crowd and told her the hard truth and ask if she was aware of it. It might have been a bit embarrassing but maybe not as bad as that guy with the coin. She may have even been glad some stranger cared enough to point out her mistake. If she had been the kind who did that on purpose then oh well, you just go on with life. I think people don't mind the truth when it is said kindly to them rather than having reality slap them in the face with the truth.
2007-03-27 09:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing.
There is a time and a place for everything. Sometimes less is better (when it comes to verbage).
Chances are that with today's low-rider, thong/g-string fashions, that she knew exactly what was at risk. If she made the fashion choices that she did, she knew that there was a risk of exposing "B.C." In all likelihood, I believe that she was aware of it. Some people of each gender find that attractive, although I know not why.
If you saw her walk out of ladies' room, and she had t.p. stuck to her shoes, alert her to that. If she smiled and there was spinach caught between her teeth, alert her to that. But surely she feels the breeze on her own butt crack! lol
Good lookin' out, though!
2007-03-27 09:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Theres a girl at my school with the same problem! I just privately went up to her and said: "Your underwear is down, and your butt crack is showing. Sorry, but I don't want you to be made fun of." She just pulled up her pants and her problems were solved! =D
2007-03-27 09:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Leelee 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would have gone up and tapped her on the shoulder and told her she may want to pull up her pants. im fairly positive she can figure out why. the guy with the coin was a bit extreme/immature, but its very likely she will wear a belt or bigger pants from now on.
2007-03-27 09:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's showing it, she won't mind someone telling her ANYTHING. A situation like that is embarrassing enough, a simple "You probably will want to pull your pants up before someone does something stupid like putting a pencil there." is enough. If you want to be super polite, you could suggest "Excuse me, but I don't think you realize you have a bit too much of yourself showing in behind."
"Excuse me, I think you might want to check your pants." is a very simple one.
2007-03-27 09:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by chocolateandnuts 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything you could have said or done would have prevented the em-barass-ment that the girl felt.
Even pulling her aside woundn't have helped because the whole class would have known what is was about by then.
2007-03-27 09:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never feel ashamed for what someone else is wearing.
She chose it and the underwear has a freedom of it's own.
So if it slips, she would know that and should know better, and then you wonder why guys follow these girls and they attract bad attention.
2007-03-27 09:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by DREENA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋