Okay so theres this new guy and he treats me so great. I think hes wonderful and attractive but i still have feelings for my ex. Even though my ex wants nothing to do with me, im still holding on to the feelings i have for him. I've tried so hard to let go and sometimes i get better at it but then i see my ex and the feelings come back. I feel like im ruining my new relationship with the new guy even though he doesnt kno about my ex. i want to start something with the new guy but im afraid i would just be hurting him and me. what should i do?
2007-03-27 09:25:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't sound like you have moved on.
The best way to do this... get out there and date and see what else the world has to offer.
There is nothing as ill fated as pining away for someone who doesn't return the feelings.
Keep your eyes and heart open and you will find someone who truly cares for you and will return your love and affection! :)
Yeah, there may be the potential for a rebound or two (or several) before you find the one who makes your world seem sweeter, but the only way to find that out is to get out there! :)
Good luck!
2007-03-27 09:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a great thing with your ex but now its over. You will always have feeling for your ex. But you ex has moved on so should you. You got a great guy now. Try to look at the bright side of life. You got to know a great guy but now its over. But you got to be a part of his life a little. You have a great thing going on with this new guy don't throw it away to a guy that will never love you back and that feeling you said when ever you saw your ex tells you that you still really care for your ex. But move on and be happy. Don't wast your life but live your life
2007-03-27 16:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Hot asain mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex had his chance!!!
It is so hard to walk Away.... But you must find what make you so happy about this new guy! Your ex will always be there and holds a space in your heart. If the new guy knows anything about that he should understand. But as far as the ex....he's done!
When you look at your new man look him in the eye and figure out his importance to u
2007-03-27 16:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by lilboykrazie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really can't have an honest relationship with this new guy, don't start it. Why bother? All you'll do is mess him up and cause a big ol' painful scene and hurt him. Seek counseling and get over the other guy who wants nothing to do with you so you can move on without garbage/baggage.
2007-03-27 16:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EX- EX- EX- forget this person, he's an ex, and you already know he wants nothing with you- so give value to what is important- YOURSELF!
Look for your happiness somewhere else. Don't look back or ever take a step back- ALWAYS FORWARD!!
2007-03-27 16:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the breakup is still fresh then this is normal. Talk to you new friend about it and hopefully he will understand and be supportive. If this is an old thing you're holding on to, you are going to have problems. You can't make him love you. You left him for a reason! Let yourself be happy!!!!
2007-03-27 16:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please move on! I once was in the same situation but waiting and holding on to that ex will only make things worse and harder for you to go on to better things. You will never know how good this new relationship might be for you, until you try it!! you are worth getting something better for you!
2007-03-27 16:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jakie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all wounds. you can not try to jump into anything too soon. if you still have feelings for your ex you need to back off the new guy becasue you wouldn't be doing him or yourself any good. forget about your ex. spend some alone time and allow yourself time to get over him
2007-03-27 16:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, find closure, was there ever a real reason given for the breakup? As soon as you find closure, the new relationship will go perfectly as it's going to.
2007-03-27 16:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by foxy8907 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a dance at the rec center. that,s fun.
2007-03-27 16:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋