Why do I get so anxious over guys & relationships?

Question

Sometimes I get so spastic I can't stand it, and the thing is that I worry too much what the guy thinks, or I always worry if I'm doing too much or too little, or saying the wrong things. But I think the reason is that I want to have a steady relationship again, and I probably won't rest until I'm in one again. I've been without a steady guy for 2 years, although I was in a casual relationship for over a year, just ended about 6 months ago because he had to move back home. So..whenever a new guy comes into the picture, I always worry if I become too forward or scare them away, by what I say or how I react to things. I don't know why I get like this, but I need help! I think I'm high strung or something, or a perfectionist? Like I need to know right then & there if he's interested kinda thing. What's wrong with me? =( I think the casual sex relationship messed me up for some reason.

Answer 1

Well the most important thing is not to expect too much out of someone or yourself. Remember this isn't a race to "live happily ever after".
Figure out what you want out of a relationship. (This comes with age and experience). And let nature do the rest.

Answer 2

Well from a guys perspective, guys I don't think get scared away. But that is just my opinion, usually it is the other way around. I tend to get too serious to quick and have a bad habbit of scaring women away. I get very anxious and try to force the relationship when I should really just take it easy and stay friendly. This is the hardest thing for me to do, but I am having a lot more sucess now by taking it easy and being more casual on dates.

Answer 3

relax breathe fous on YOU and when the time is right someone or something will come to sweep you off your feet

Answer 4

cause you dont want to be alone no body dose it ok .sometime you have to let things fall in place

Answer 5

you sound crazy