driving a wedge in the rest of the family? I've apologized 3 times and have had no response. Now my brother's surprise 50th birthday party has been planned (by my sister) and my immediate family has been omitted. No one in my extended family is mad at me except her. Tell me what you think about this. I am going to see him but I'm not invited to the party...he doesn't know I'm not invited because he doesn't know about the party.
2007-03-27 09:17:15 · 6 answers · asked by DeborahDel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi... it's really difficult when families don't get along... i have a sister who doesn't speak to me, either... and we used to be very close. it's painful when someone won't accept our apology, but hon, at least you tried. it sounds like you're sincere, as well.
i'm glad you're going to see your brother on his birthday... even if you're not invited to his party.
we can't change the feelings of others. and if your sister isn't going to accept your apology, you might just have to settle for that and go forward with your own life. I know what it feels like to be excluded, as well.
take care of YOU... perhaps one day your sister will come around. all the best!
2007-03-27 09:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't say what you did to upset your sister, it is difficult to answer. It may well be that your sister, for whatever reason, requires a public apology. In which case, get your parents, or another member of your family to invite her and perhaps other (involved) family members to their home, and ensure that you arrive after all of them. Then immediately, and in front of everybody, tell her that you wish to publicly apologize for your "wrongdoing". If she still refuses to accept your apology, try asking her why - there may be more going on than you realize. Of course it is possible that she is just being vindictive and spiteful - for your and her sake, I hope this is not the case. However, the ball will now be firmly in her court, and her reaction should most likely be to accept your apology gracefully and put past hurts away.
Good luck
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2007-03-27 09:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really sad situation. But you can only be held accountable for your action and if you have apologized that is all that a person can do. When this life is all over she has to answer for her unforgiveness. It still hurts all the same but you have to push forward with your life until she can come to terms, that she has a part to play also in this family mess. Be strong and remember that you are NEVER responsible for another person action.
2007-03-27 09:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sjackson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have apologized from the heart and have done it 3 times already - I think you should back off- you have apologized and is she who now has the problem.
Leave her alone- she'll come around sooner or later.
And if its later then you have to deal with it. Hope she comes around and accepts your apology, nothing like sister love ( if its sincere).
2007-03-27 09:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh - I'd be so tempted to invite him out on that day!
That's horrible - do you know why she won't accept your apology?
2007-03-27 09:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should still go to his party...he's you're brother. About your problem...the only thing you can do is wait it out. you did your best.Good Luck!
2007-03-27 13:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by twinklestars211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋