Ok so me & my ex were together for 2 years and a little more . we were soooooo goood together and i had always been the one to instigate the fights in our relationship. now looking back i relaize this, but the problem is he says he wont give me another chance. since we broke up in september, i can honestly say i have really changed, though he wont talk to me, just once in a while & when i bring back things, he gets mad and says he cant hear this . well, his birthday is on april 1st & im going to send him a card and a CD of songs that we both used to like and listen to together becuase he always wanted me to buRn him a CD but i never did. i realllyy want him backk . and i know its my fault. hes so hard headed and says he will not give me another chance. i don't know what to do he was my first love & everything & after being together for a while, i can not forget him, ever. is this stupid? what should i do? help. anyone! i feel hopeless.
2007-03-27 09:17:00 · 27 answers · asked by babyz a queen ♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GO FOR IT ! because i know [from expierence] if you don't , your going to wonder what if. what if you would have sent the card and CD , maybe that would have brought him back. and your always going to beat yourself up for that. so just go for it. you have nothing to lose .whatever happens happens. and if he does come back, you know you took a chance and it worked out for the best. if he doesn't ? well its his loss and im not jus saying that. goood luckk and i hope all turns out well!
2007-03-28 02:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't know how old you are but you sound like a kid talking about your ex that way. If you really want him back, you have to stop everything you're doing right now. Forget the cards, and the CD, and get any kind of presents out of your head for right now! You need to concentrate on yourself and on your school, job, or friends. You need to not show him that you are over him and as soon as he sees that there is no more interest coming from your side... he will begin to wonder and he'll come crawling back. You have done a lot of damage already, simply commiting all the common mistakes that every broken hearted girl would... but trying won't hurt. So, go out and have a good time, don't bother him, no phone calls, no e mails, no showing up at his door-step!!! This way, after three or four weeks of ignooring him and pretending you are completely over him... two things may happen. 1-he will call you and see what you are up to because he will be curious. 2-he will not call, but it will be ok with you because by that time you will have already put him in the past!
2007-03-27 16:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar situation, it took forever to get over him i only wanted him back, i even got him to cheat on his girl a few times but with no avail, he wouldn't give me a second chance, i had changed, your story all over, sadly maybe if you just stop trying he'll realize it and see whats up, or maybe he will be relieved. However, i believe you too should move on, there are better fishies in the sea! i moved on and now i realize what real love is even though i thought that was real love. Spend more time out and being with friends the right guy will come around sometime, and don't let anyone stand in your way.
2007-03-27 16:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by foxy8907 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should burn him a CD because he clearly stated that he doesn't want you back. If you guys get back together he will probably always remember the reasons why you guys broke up. I think you need your space from him. He moved on and so should you. Right now you are only hurting yourself. I'd to give him a card, it's the least you can do.
2007-03-27 16:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first loves are hard to forget and to be honest I don't think you ever will forget him, but if he doesn't like you, why would you want to be with him. Make a truce with him, ask him that instead of getting back together with him, become friends with him. And if you guys do become friends again, get him a present and if he wants to stay separate then try to find another guy, because you'll probably miss out on a guy that is better worth your time than the guy that you want back.
hope that helps!!
2007-03-27 16:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by lovin' it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...I'm no expert hun...but sounds to me like you're looking and smelling kinda desperate really. Nobody looks good when they're acting and behaving in this manner darling. Give it up for awhile...and just simply send him a nice card or something hun. You're just gonna be stirring up his unrealistic emotions with you and all of these favorite song stuffs and whatnot. Don't do it darling seriously. When he rejects your music and you indirectly and everything else for the tenth time?...it's gonna hurt worse then the last time anyways. Are you feeling what I'm telling you here hun?...it's over with baby....and so should your desperate ways be here too. Let the dust settle for awhile hun. You'll see more clearly in a few months if you'd only let it be done.
2007-03-27 16:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off try not 2 bring up old stuff n if u do say its to apoligize. If he doesnt at least stop to listen u need to let him go. I am goin through this same thing i know how u feel u dnt wanna give up but he jus doesnt care ne more. ask him say if u can honestly say u dnt still have feelins for me den i want to b ur friend or ill be out your life for good. jus tell him u need 2 sit down and talk it out if that doesnt work then its jus not ment to b
2007-03-27 16:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you really want him back then you need to do everything in your power...Have you ever seen the movie "the last kiss" i think thats what its called...do everything you can to get him back...show him that your not going to hurt him again and that your the best for him....Yes i think you should send the card and the cd, he might not show it but i bet he some what appreciates it!
2007-03-27 16:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by ~small town girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. Send him a gift , a little bit impersonal... don't sign "love". If he has been playing hard to get up to now, this might be a good way to find out where he is standing. what would happen if he thinks that all of a sudden you are not interested anymore?
Maybe he'll come around to find out...
Good Luck!
2007-03-27 16:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an EX FOr a reason remember that! DOnt push it hell resent you. Ignore him.... He'll come back mine always did... then you can turn him dont... its more fun that way! DONT BEG... All the thing about him you like and didnt like.... there someone else out there perfect for you. I didnt like a few things about my ex and i finally after 8 years of off and one kicked him to the curb... I ment someone that was everything I wanted and he didnt have to change. YOu have to understand what you really want and go for that... DOnt waste your time on the ones that dont quite cut it. YOu'll be held up when Mr' Right comes around!
2007-03-27 16:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by lowclearence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋