My ex and I broke up after 3 years about a month ago. I was still madly in love with him though. He told me he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, but we still continued to talk on the phone everyday which I didn't mind b/c I missed him. After a month went by we had hung out twice as just "friends" but we'd always end up snuggling, and one time we slept together. What pissed me off was he was willing to sleep with me knowing he didn't want to be with me. So I called him last night b/c I wanted to figure out what the hell was going on in our relationship, and what the posibility was of us getting back together. And he said he never did want to get back together. I'm so mad he would lead me on like this, an I'm pissed at how he threw 3 years of my life away. Yet i still miss him so much, and would do anything to be with him. How do I get over him???
2007-03-27 09:15:36 · 2 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Frist thing is to direct that anger in the right direction, namly yourself. From the sounds of it you expected more... which yes it wasn't fair of him to sleep with you without bring it up that he wasn't meaning for you guys to get back together. It shows that he is taking advantage of your love for him, but your allowing him to do it. Leave him be, that bs explination about how he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore should of been your frist warning sign to start making a life seperate from his. If thats to hard you need to let go of the expectations you have, just except him for what he is, and don't get hurt when he doesn't live up to them. I have a similar relationship and anytime I expect more I loss out, but when I don't expect anything I end up gaining something in the transaction. I guess this is a test of maturity because its selfish to expect a person to be more then themselves...
2007-03-29 09:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i had the same problem and it took me 3 years to get over him but somewhere deep down there, all my passion had gone with him. i can't fall in love with anyone. i can like a guy and love him but never the same. that's gone forever. you can email me if you want to talk
god bless
2007-03-30 17:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sheri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋