here, my 19 yrs old brother was studying engineering, but after failing the first year he decided to change his studies and headed for computer science, he was accepted in a very expensive and excellent British University here, now he's tired from a difficult subject and suddenly after passing a whole semister decided to move to learning biz and financial ad. at the same uni., my father is completely against this, my brother insists, I agree with dad my mum is hesitant, tell me what to do to make him change his mind, plz don't tell me let him choose what he wants, he already chose twice.
2007-03-27 09:14:31 · 3 answers · asked by zozza 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
He's 19 years old. Mom and Dad can offer to fund a certain dollar amount toward his education and then let the "MAN" (because that is what your brother is), decide how he wants to invest those funds.
If after the funds run out, your brother doesn't have a degree, that is your brother's problem. However, if you all just leave him alone a bit and let him "find himself" he might walk away with far more than any of you could have hoped for.
Perhaps he is having trouble deciding because his family has been too overbearing all his life? It kinda sounds like this might be the case after reading how you have phrased your question.
2007-03-27 09:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to change your brother's mind. My family forced me to take what they wanted me to take in college and I have been resentful ever since as it was not what I wanted at the time. I too changed my desires in college as I didn't know what I wanted to do because I had so many interests.
It is far better that he change his mind now, than spending 2-4 years getting a degree in a career he hates. Your brother is just trying to find himself and being pushed by you and your family isn't going to help.
We want what is best for our siblings and kids but we cannot make them live the lives we missed out on at their age.
What do you want to do with your life? It isn't as easy as one would think. Sit down and talk with your brother. Find out exactly why he left the other two programs. Find out what subjects were hard for him, it may be that he just needs a tutor or something simple. But also realize too that if you push him into what your parents and you want, it may cause you to lose your brothers' respect and confidence.
2007-03-27 09:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is still his life and he is the one that has to live it. So he is to choose his own carreer. If someone choose for him and he isn't happy that person will probably feel bad the rest of their life . Leave him alone.
2007-03-27 09:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋