How do I force establishment for paternity?

Question

I have been told by my ex that we are having a baby April 11, in two weeks. I have know about this. The problem is that she moved back to Iowa and I live in Arizona. She is together with her oldest son's dad and won't return any of my calls. I have tried to speak with her in the interest of this child to take care what is my responsibility. I have requested that we take a paternity test prior to anything else and I can't get her to respond. Some time ago she agreed to paternity and I honestly don't think she was with anyone else. She has not really asked for anything from me and has a deep anger because I didn't tell her and help her stay here in Arizona. I want to have a paternity test and take care of my son but I don't know how to go about this....who do I contact in Iowa and how do can I be a father to his son when we're so far away and she won't speak to me?

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Answer 1

First thing i want to say, is if i were you i would get the ball moving like yeasterday LOL. Think about it this way, if shes living with the father of her oldest son, and he signs this childs birth certificate when born, your going to have a whole new fight to fight and it will cost you alot of money, time, and headachs. I think you need to contact your local child support and explain the situation to them and see what they advise you to do. Obviously at this point they will probably tell you to speak with an attorney and have them assist you in this matter. BUT if this child is born, and shes on state assistance, as in Medicaid or ANY form of government assistance, child support will be more than happy to speak with you and work this out. They want a father listed so he can pay the bills the state is footing for that child. Again my main concern would be that this child is born into another family, and if that man feels comfortable signing the birth certificate, your up a creek with no paddle. Its just like the whole anna nicole deal. Once a father or man signs the birth certificate, paternity has been established, even if its incorrect, its much harder to get those things straightened out. You cannot make her accpet your phone calls. Maybe this other man is somehow the father, thinks hes the father (being used) or he doesnt know about you. You have a right to call her number all day long. you have reason. I wish you luck and let me know how things go for you!