i have this guy that likes me but i dont like him. he is just a friend to me. he is short and kind of cute. how do i let him down but dont ruin our relationship. he has been my friend since 1st grade. i just want to be friends. i kind of like him but i dont know. what to do. help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 09:12:24 · 35 answers · asked by Goomba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-27 09:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward with him tell him that you see him as a friend and that you don't want anything to ruin the relationship. Don't keep him going by saying i don't know or maybe later because hell think you do like him and you'll end up hurting him. Only time will tell and if you don't like him or are not sure of what to do then tell him how you feel he'll understand hes been your friend for the longest. Tell him maybe your just confused since were such good friends ,but i dont feel anything for you but friendship love.
2007-03-27 09:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy, but i may be a bit of service. Seeing that you were best friends with him since the 1st grade, there is no way of telling him that you want to be friends without breaking his heart and that affecting you friendship. I've been through this hundreds of times. All rejected. Problem is, the girls don't want to give it a shot. Who knows? Maybe it would turn out better than you think.
2007-03-27 09:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always the best way to go. He'll be hurt at first, if he really likes you. But you never know, that little bit of truth might make your relationship even stronger. Let him know that you love him as a good friend, and that you don't to ruin the relationship you have as friends by bringing something like love into the picture.
2007-03-27 09:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know exactly how you feel. tell him that you kinda like him but you dont want to get into a relationship because you dont want to ruin your relationship. i had the same problem and we ended up going out 2 times but we broke up and now we are back to being best friends but for a while i thought we were done for good. dont let that happen to you! it sucked and luckily we made up but that only happens once in a while so Good Luck and i hope everything works out!
2007-03-30 10:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't have friends that are girls... we just don't. The fact that he has feelings for you totally changes the relationship. The sad truth is that your friendship is over. If he truely has feelings of love for you, he will never be able to handle you with other men. Sorry to say, but just tell him the truth and expect him to take it like a man... and then expect that you've lost a friend.
2007-03-27 09:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem.. Just let him know(if he brings up the subject) that you just want to be friends for the time being and don't really have the same feelings. I he takes it the wrong way then that's his fault. He's probably going to take it hard any way you say it. I know my friend did.. But were still the best of friends
2007-03-27 09:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Belby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him so much as a friend that you would hate to ruin things by changing them. But be careful, it's been my experience that when you do this, you end up regretting it because YOU end up having feelings when he's already gotten over them. If you think you like him, tell him that you can test things out and if they don't work, agree to be just friends.
2007-03-27 09:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by skybelle24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him you really dont have feelings for him, and that you would rather just be friends, that you have nothing against him but you just dont have feelings for him...Let him down easy and nicely....But if you maybe have feelings for him wait and see if they are real or not because if you tell him you dont like him then maybe he will move on and then you end up getting feelings for him, well then your screwed and that wouldnt be fair to him...make sure you know what your feeling first!
2007-03-27 09:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by ~small town girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you certainly can't lead him on butt you can let him down easy by saying that "I'm not interested in you in the way that you want me to be, but I'll let you know if my feelings for you change, but you really are a great guy, but for now I just see us as friends" and apologize. Make sure you do this when none of his or your buds are around becasue that could be embarrassing for the both of you.
hope that helps! And best of luck!
2007-03-27 09:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by lovin' it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello its Dr. Montgomery.
Sweetie, a relationship can't work when one of the people involved is not interested. You won't ruin your relationship! Just say "Let me think about it, but right now lets just be friends". Its that easy!
2007-03-27 09:58:55 · answer #11 · answered by JR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋