I've had a male friend, that I thought I could talk to about anything. Yet we talked last week about how many

Question

people we've slept with, now things are diffrent, i don't get it.

I'm in my late 30's its not like i just jump in the sack when ever the mood hits me, (I can take care of that myself) there has to be some kind of connection there before I sleep with someone.

So please explain to me what the hell happen?

We were just being goofy, talking crap, the next thing i know, we were talking bout diffrent relationships.

He was the one that brought it up, about the number of people, and to be honest with you all the number is low, only 10 men.

He just has gotten cold to me!

I've left out that I've never been married.

Answer 1

My guess is that he has some unspoken feelings for you and those may have gotten hurt if he thinks that 10 men is an ungodly amount (Lord help me I think that covers my college years when alcohol was a friend!). If his behavior continues and keeps bothering you, apologize to him and say you didn't realize the conversation was going to end up where it did and that you never meant to hurt his feelings. Then tell him that you value the relationship that you have with him and that you would hope he would see that you can be honest about everything. That's what friends do...they can be honest and tell you what's really going on. Then open the floor up for him to talk and hopefully clear the air. Just remember to let each other complete all statements and be truthful.

Good luck in whatever you do, and I hope this friendship gets salvaged. Relationships like yours are few and far between where you can always talk about anything...I hope yours can get back to that!

Answer 2

I'm guessing that you have slept with more people than he has. He probably is/ was interested in you as more than a friend, and it's bothering him to think about how many men you've already slept with. He may be either put off or intimidated, but he didn't like what you told him.

Answer 3

Guys dont really want to know this stuff. When a guy asks how many partners you've had, give a generic answer like 'A few" or go the other way and toss him the phone book.
It's none of his business unless you two are planning to marry.

Answer 4

My best guess is that he came to the realization that he would never get the chance to be with you. I can't pretend to know the number you said, but it must have been high enough and you two friends long enough that he knows that you don't look at him as anything other than a friend.

Answer 5

Your problem is you thought he was just your friend, you were wrong. He never wanted to be your friend, he wanted more from the get go. You crossed the line and treated him as such, therefore you are now different to him.

I'm still surprised by just how many women are clueless about this basic fact of human life. It's like they just don't want to get it.

Answer 6

Was your number higher than his??? Could be an ego thing...

Any chance he sees you as more than a friend? - If so he might have thought you had slept with less and now is weirded out.

Anything else happen in that conversation. You might be focusing on that part, but if it was a lengthy conversation, maybe something else was what he's focused on.

Answer 7

Personally I think he had made an image of you in his mind. Therefore when you told him about this stuff I think that image of you in his mind was challenged and that made him upset.
At these situations the one big thought that comes generally is "what more is yet to be told by her. It seems I don't know her yet"
I hope I have conveyed you my opinion.
Best of Luck with him
Anx

Answer 8

Maybe he has feelings for you and it hurt him to think that you'd been with other people. As a friend, he shoud know and respect you, so it's silly of him, in my opinion, to treat you any differenty. Talk to him about it before it comes between you guys.

Answer 9

how different things are? what happened? what did he say to u? we need more details.

Answer 10

How did he change?