We ahve been going out for over a year now, and we are in love. But I know that at the age of twenty two I was certainly not looking for a serious relationship, although I found myself in one. Because I wasn't ready for that relationship, I broke up with the guy after 6 years, although I know that I did love him amd we were compatible. I am afraid that although my current young thing does love me, and thinks he will stay with me, that he is too young to know that. I really want kids, and if I stay with him I will have to wait until he is old enough, and risk that he will dump me just at that time. agh, I know I will stay with him anyway but I need reassurance. Any positive experiences of this?
2007-03-27 09:08:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age really is nothing but a number. 10 years from now when you are sad and alone you are going to wish that you let your issue go and just enjoy life. people get too hung up on age. I'm 22 and married my husband is 27 and we are currently planning to have a family. if he's in a serious relationship with you then he may be serious about other things. talk it out.
2007-03-27 09:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by poeticscribe1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually sound like you think he is less mature than you and that could be a problem. Age is not important as long as you have things in common. Do you both want kids, are you into sports or would rather watch them. Is money or religion going to be an issue? I know of 2 other couples with age differences. The one where the husband was about 10 years younger ended in divorce because he wasn't ready to settle down. The other has a difference of about 5 years and has lasted almost 25 years.
2007-03-27 16:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by alice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Until he is old enough"???? Um - 22 is plenty old enough. Is he the primary wage earner? Is he still in school? Has he demonstrated the sort of maturity a parent ought to have? And most importantly - have you talked it over with him and let him know you'd like to have children? Do it! - and listen carefully to his response. You may be very pleasantly surprised. At any rate - waiting longer to pose this question is not going to do you a bit of good. You need to know whether he's amenable to the lifestyle of a proper daddy - and if he isn't, I don't care how good he is in bed (and for a 28-year-old woman to be sleeping with a man 6 years her junior, he must be REAL good - and I don't mean that in a nasty way), you'll need to bid him a fond farewell and look elsewhere.
2007-03-27 16:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is too young for you. He might not want the same things that you want. He is only 22 and he still wants to do a lot before steeling down with some one. The things that you think are old and you have been there and done that , Those are the thing that he wants to do. You should find some one your age that wants the same things you do
2007-03-27 16:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jazmin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone. I was with a guy who was younger then me. We stand togher for 4 years. We almost got married. You never know. If he loves you thats great. You got something good and you should be thankful. But at the same time you have to watch out. Not only for the younger girls but also if he don't sure if he wants to get into a serious relationship now. He still really young.
2007-03-27 16:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Hot asain mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, so I don't know that I can offer much help, because I have always liked older men. However, I believe that if you really love someone, age doesn't matter. I am only 23, and I am a single mother. I have recently fallen in love with a man that is 44. Which kinda scared me at first, but he is so worth it, and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. So, I say go for it girl. It's your life and happiness.
2007-03-27 16:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A co-worker is 23 and married to a 30 year old and they have a 1 year old son!
It can work!
Good luck!
My wife just had our third child and she will be 40 this summer, so you have many years of child bearing (unless you want to have 8 or 10 kids)
2007-03-27 16:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He legal now. Once 21, then he's old enough for kids and marrage. Hell.....you got boys and girls getting married at 17, 18, 19 and 20 and havin babies at 13. If you guys are ready........then go for it. Stay with him if you really love him. Age aint nuthin but a number.
2007-03-27 16:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jay-sama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, me and my bf have the same age difference, only vice versa. let me tell ya, 28 year olds are no more mature than 22 year olds. besides, age is just a number. if you really love someone you wont let "the rules of society" come between you. you have to ask yourself, "is the relationship worth sticking around for?" oh, and also, dont fix it if it aint broken.
2007-03-27 16:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by *~* tErrA *~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is karma kicking you in the *** for what you did to the poor other guy that you knew you were compatible with. I have often been that guy, so all I can say is: HAHAHAHA -- I hope you get what you deserve! The 22 yr old will definitely leave you, especially as you start getting older and sagging, and he sees all the girls his age around him. KARMA!!! Gotta love it!
2007-03-27 16:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋