Well, I have been seeing this woman for about 2 months and I love everything about her. We were lying in bed together and I told her that I was falling in love with her and she didn't say it back. She seemed happy and flattered though at the same time and said she wasn't going to say it back until she knew for sure. Now I feel completely powerless in this relationship and even feel as if she backed off a bit , but that last part may just be in my head. Its hard to tell. I haven't said it since and I don't plan on saying it again until she says it. Should I back off on the attention I give her and play it cool or just not change a thing? Any advice would be appreciated. I feel like I jumped the gun on this one.....oops.
2007-03-27 09:02:00 · 12 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just let it lay low for awhile, and continue treating her like you would've if you hadn't said it. Its a good thing she didn't say it to say it. Wouldn't you rather she said it because she means it? I have been in this boat too, I told someone I loved him but he didn't say it back. My patience and understanding paid off and eventually he said it to me. It meant even more to me because I knew he meant it. Our relationship was actually one of my stronger ones because we knew exactly where each other stood.
2007-03-27 09:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by littleitaly1377 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all 2 month is a little quick to "love" everthing about them....cough!!! We have no power over the others heart...so give her more time to figure things out. But it is okay, Because you are more open with your feelings. Though you will try to act like there isn't a change it is still noticed.
Let her know that you will still be by her side and you just have strong feelings for hers and your futur together.
(Try again in ruffly 6 months)wink
2007-03-27 16:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by lilboykrazie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake. Never let a woman know that you like/love her. That's the fastest way to make her run away. Do yourself a favor and read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It will change your life. And if you don't believe me, read the reviews on Amazon.com. Since reading that book, I have had a completely different approach to women, and have been amazed by the results. Right now you are an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump). That was me, and I'm only slowing growing away from that, but I'm in the right direction. TRUST ME!!! READ THAT BOOK!!!
2007-03-27 16:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just do not display affection, my spouse is the same way. I can tell him I love him 24/7, and he never responds... well maybe twice when he was under the influence. The only other problem she is just not in love with you, but keep on being honest, it will get you a long way! good luck.
2007-03-27 16:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Thea V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have jumped the gun..or you might just have fed the fire...she hasn't said anything back yet because loving someone is a big deal and she wants to make sure she isn't untruthful if she says it back to you...what you should do..is be yourself treat her the same..be patient..love takes time and she may not be ready for that kind of commitment. im sure she doesnt want to hurt you by saying, "i love you" and not meaning it.. give her time, be yourself..if she really loves you she should tell you so... and if she doesnt there are plenty of other women out there whom im sure would love to be with a guy like you...
best of luck and i hope this helps....
2007-03-27 16:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just needs more time to decide if she loves you back and she also probably felt kind of bad about now answering. Give her time
2007-03-27 16:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by simple_plan_fan225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe since it was only 2 months you scared her give her time patience is a virtue
2007-03-27 16:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude...now why did you go and screw it all up by saying that? Don't call her or go see her. Let her make the first move....when she does, just be an azz! That will drive her crazy! She will then be jello in your arms!
2007-03-27 16:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait and watch because she might still be taking in your feelings. she will probably tell u how she feels sooner or later, but if she takes too long (1 week+) I say go and just ask her how she feels. but be careful not to pressure her!
2007-03-27 16:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know this is very natural..
Im really afraid of these phrases..
the 1st time he said it to me..I said:U just gave me a stomack sick.lol..
just relax..Im sure she's fallen for u too.
2007-03-27 16:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by G?ld?n ang?l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋