More and more of my "innocent" virgin friends are having sex and starting to drink. i'm only 20 and most of my friends are that age too. I'm still a virgin and have never been drunk in my life. am i being responsible or naive or am i just not growing up?
2007-03-27 08:57:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your being Responsible... Sure your form of responsibility is different from others but your still following your Morals and thats all that counts
2007-03-27 09:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by rawr125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your naive at all. I think it's great that you've never been drunk. I've seen someone drunk it doesn't look to much fun. And you know what there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I think it's better to wait till marriage personally one reason cause my morals and belief. But also if you would get pregnant how would u know if the guy would stay or not. So i think maybe your a little more mature then your friends.
2007-03-27 16:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're on the right track, you are both responsible and grown up. dont conform to fit in with everyone else, be individual and stay true to your beliefs. you've got everything going for you, you havent gotten drunk, and still have your innocence at 20........most have lost that long ago....most throw that away by time they are 15.....WAY TO GO!!! i'm on a similar path myself, only im a guy and 22, i've drank before but never been drunk, but i quit drinking all together when i turned 21. not just for the fact i didnt want to drink, my father and his father are alcoholics and were abusive as a result, and i dont want to follow those footsteps, and im hypoglycemic and alcohol could lower my bloodsugar level to the point of falling into a coma or death so its not a risk i can take. and yes im a 22 yr old guy that is still a virgin (laugh if you want, i dont care) i just have higher standards than most people.
2007-03-27 16:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being responsible for your own life and you have recognized that even when others make different choices, you still are the ONLY person responsible for YOU. Hold your ground, do what you believe is right and never do anything just because others are doing it. You are a person, a moral being, not a herd animal. Good for you!!
2007-03-27 16:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is overrated, alcohol only leads to trouble and wow, a young adult with morals. I think you've hit the trifecta my dear. Save yourself for the man who cherishes you enough to marry you, drink in moderation - or not at all if you don't want to,and I think your parents did a fine job at raising you. You are growing up just fine. Don't let others push their immorality on you. Dare to be a tall evergreen and go against the grain. Congratulations for not being afraid to be who you are.
2007-03-27 16:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're fine. Alcohol and sex don't make you "grown up". In fact, quite the opposite is true.
And by the way, alcohol diminishes inhibitions and often leads to sex. But believe me, it RUINS it! I don't care to be mauled by a stinky sloppy drunk guy! And I don't care to make sweet love to a stinky drunk grrl either!
I prefer my partners and I to be 100% in control when we do it. If I lose control, I'd rather do so in wonderful orgasms than in an alcoholic stupor....
2007-03-27 16:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have sex or drink alcohol to be an adult! Those things have nothing to do with it. I know plenty of people much older than you who haven't. Don't do either unless and until *you* want to. And even then, the responsible, adult thing to do is be careful. I hope I don't need to tell you that. ;)
2007-03-27 16:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with naivety... it is nothing to be ashamed of ... espeially when you are naive by choice..and know for yourself what the options are and clearly decide what it is you want...
there is nothing wrong with having morals.. and sticking by them..
having sex and drinking are not what growing up is about.. growing up is about being able to take responsibility for yourself and making your own decisions based on what it is you want and need and being able to not give in topeer pressure...
2007-03-27 16:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being VERY responsible! :D Great job! So many people are being taken over by alcohol and stuff now, it's ruining a lot of people's lives!
Keep up the great work! :D
~*~StardustFaerie24~*~
2007-03-27 16:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by ★☆キザ☆★ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk when you feel ready and have sex when you're ready. Don't follow some else's time table.
2007-03-27 16:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋