okay so i met this guy on my cruise, we had a thing and liked eachother a lot and after the cruise he contacted me and we talked a few times but then things died down a bit cause we live far away from eachother. about 2 months after the cruise i went to surprise visit him. he was really happy, and acted the same exact way as he did on the cruise. i was only there for about 20 minutes cause i had to go somewhere else. he contacted me after the visit and then things died down once again. 4 months after that in february, me and my friend contacted him because we happen to be going to college by where he lives in a few months and we were auditioning for dance. he said, of course, come hang out with us. we went there and hung out and once again, he acted the same exact way. he explained to me how me visiting the first time he was really happy but it was like giving him a puppy and then taking it away from him. he kept asking the question "can i keep it..is it mine?"..which was really cute. me and him talked for about an hour alone about everything. i left and he told me to text him when i got back to the hotel. he asked if i was mad at him for not talking to me all the time. i said no, and he said he can tell i was. but i wasnt, not at all. he texted me that night saying "thanks for coming cant wait to see u again." we spoke for awhile about the night and how we had fun and later on i said "goodnight have fun"..and he said "im going to sleep..all my fun left already." that night he commented me on myspace saying he had fun and he hopes to hear from me soon. two nights later he texts me again saying hey and we talked for awhile. i asked him to come to ny to see me, but he feels weird cause he doesnt know anyone and he feels as if everyone will "like him..then hate him" he said he would think about it, and i even said "we can go to the city." he told me "way rather see you then the city"..meaning it doesnt matter what we do, as long as i can see you..which was really cute. he then sent a couple of funny videos and one night his friends called me from his phone. i heard them say something about girlfriend in the background and he laughed and got on the phone and kept apologizing for calling so late..he told me he was really sorry and hed call me the next day. he was drunk when he called the last time, so he probably forgot the entire night because he didnt call the next day, and now we havent really been speaking..
why isnt he talking to me now?
2007-03-27 08:47:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you live far away from him and he's got other girl interests. Leave him outta your thoughts.
2007-03-27 08:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by HD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is smarter than you. He knows that long distance relationships don't work and are too much effort to just keep going for a while. He doesn't want to someday break your heart or even worse have you break his (and that will happen no matter what you think).
Better to spend your time and effort on someone you can see and build a relationship with close to home.
Sorry you picked wrong and that is just the way it works.
2007-03-27 15:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG - Have you given him the chance! I thought I was long winded!!!
If you want a relationship with this guy, be clear about it! He is probably just as confused as you are! I think he has told you that he really likes you, the rest is up to you!!
2007-03-27 15:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋