My wedding is in five weeks...I've been planning it for almost a year and now it's finally here. I'm not having second thoughts but I'm SO worked up and stressed out about the whole thing. How can I relax? HELP!
2007-03-27 08:42:11 · 19 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First CONGRATS, second the only real way is to fill up the bath tub with the most good smelling bubbles you can find and yes I mean lots and lots of bubbles, and soak for at leat 11/2 hours, yes it must be this long don't think about anything, but if you need something to think about it's this you are going to be the most beatuiful bride there is and you are going to be so happy that you pasted up cloud 9, moons and moons ago. You and your man are the perfect match no one can compare, Now go soak in those bubbles, and trust me it works, been married 19 years and counting.......
2007-03-27 08:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to remember that the details of the wedding are not what makes a marriage work. Your wedding day isn't a day that will be ruined by little things, so don't worry about the little things. What is one day, in a life of "happily ever after"? The flaws are what will make the day special and leave you with great memories. You will not have a perfect day no matter what, so deal with it and enjoy the work you have put into the relationship to get to this day. Enjoy the friends and family who have been there with you the whole way, and enjoy life for all the little things that go right and wrong.
2007-03-27 08:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by thesunshineking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! Just remember if everything isn't absolutely perfect no one is going to notice. People are there to celebrate with you not critique everything. I got married about a year ago, we set the date end of May and the wedding was end of October. You will enjoy it much more if you just go with the flow. I didn't actually freak out until the limo ride to the church, I only freaked cuz I didn't want to get up in front of everyone for the vows. A few days before you should get a facial and massage, they were amazing! Your wedding will be great, just keep telling yourself that the little things don't matter.
2007-03-27 09:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by kploch826 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find that a lot of brides start the 6 week freakout period. You worry about getting everything done, how its going to look, will everything flow smoothly...and then you'll find yourself screaming at everyone (mostly your fiance and parents) and feeling bad about it. Then the guilty feelings come and there is MORE freakout. There is a simple answer.
Do this first. Get by yourself and let out a good scream. Have a temper tantrum. And then ...
Hire a wedding planner. A lot of planners have a month-of coordination for this exact problem. They help with last minute details and de-stress the bride.
Watch a good funny movie whenever you feel freakouts are about to happen. Something mindless like clueless, mean girls, or harold and kumar go to white castle. No thinking, just laughing.
And get ready to enjoy your wedding!
2007-03-27 09:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rainer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a day spa. As hard as it is to put the wedding out of your mind, go.....get a massage, get your nails done, etc. Have a night of just you with a book or a movie. Maybe just have a weekend with you and your FI, if you cant go out of town for a couple days, just lock yourseleves up in the house, watch movies, have a romantic dinner, try and remember why are you stressing to make this day perfect. After a relaxing weekend, it will all come back
2007-03-27 09:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a day just for you. If you cannot afford to "head to a spa", make a "day at the spa" at home - Hair, nails, soak in the hot bath, listen to your favorite music, think about all the wonderful things about your soon to be husband that led you to these wonderful plans. This might help you start to get more excited about your life together after wedding and not so nervous about the beautiful day ahead! Have a wonderful time and wonderful life and takes lots of pictures - not just at the wedding - but your whole life through!
2007-03-27 08:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lotsofwords 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you one thing... relax. honey I'm planning my second wedding and I'm having fun this time why is that.because I know one thing that first time brides don't..it don't matter how much you stress and worry if something is gonna go wrong it will no matter how you feel or think, but my guess after doing this once everything will work out, nothing major is going to happen so relax it will all come together. Just keep telling yourself after a year pf planning it's your turn to see what you put together so enjoy. and congrats and best wishes.Lock your self in the bathroom tonite with candles,books and a warm bath
2007-03-27 09:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're going to stress about it no matter what. You have put a lot of effort and energy into planning your wedding so it's only natural to worry about it. Try taking a day for you and your fiancee with no wedding talk or planning just go have dinner together or something to reconnect. That should help a little bit.
2007-03-27 08:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by tashag2805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month before my daughter's wedding i was so stressed out that i was jumping down everyone's throats for no reason....you could have just called me 'mommie dearest' i was so bad.
anyway, my daughter and hubby sent me to the spa. i never had been before, i knew it was a waste of time and money, and how dumb were they to even think of it!
well, after a soak in a jetted tub, a full massage, a facial, a mud bath, pedicure, manicure, and a hair appointment i was relaxed as a kitten. so......maybe they were right and i was wrong! lol
make an appointment and go to the spa - it will be worth every penny. and go alone........no need to talk to anyone, to be 'on' with anyone.......you just relax.
honestly try it! then if you can swing it go again just before your wedding. it will be worth it!
and now i have to say this publicly: [family joke]
my husband and daughter were right and i was wrong! the spa was a perfect idea!
2007-03-27 10:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put on a kettle of water for a hot cup of tea tonight, turn off the phones, run a tub of hot water and scented bubble bath, and grab a good book and soak until the water turns cold. When you get out you should be much more relaxed. If not, make arrangements with the nearest day spa for a really good back massage using aromatherapy oils. Good luck and God Bless your marriage.
2007-03-27 08:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋